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Elderly parents

88 year old Dad had bad fall

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Showqa · 23/11/2025 12:34

Hi - honestly feeling distraught.

Mum died in the summer and her end was just horrific. I was with her for her final ten days in the hospital, but I’m haunted.

Dad has quite advanced Parkinson’s but refused to go into a home and although I’ve asked him occasionally, we haven’t pushed it so soon after Mum leaving us.

A care package of 4 visits a day was set up, my brother is a five minute walk away and another fam member is in and out regularly.

He’s had a bad fall and due to being wedged up against the radiator, he’s sustained serious burns and was taken immediately to a specialist burns unit where he will be for the foreseeable.

Skin grafts might be needed.

Any of you with knowledge, what are the chances of him pulling through this all ok?

I feel SS will insist he’ll have to go into a nursing home - and for the record, my family agree. But we know he’ll hate us and I’m absolutely dreading the emotional fallout that will result.

I’m currently overseas working until March, for financial security not lifestyle, although I’m expecting to have to go home again soon because of this.

Your experiences would be welcome. Thank you.

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TeaBiscuitsNaptime · 23/11/2025 12:53

If he had no other injuries, I would focus on getting him recovered from his fall for now. You can decide then in time if he needs more care. I wouldn't jump to conclusions that this is end of the road for him just yet. You poor thing, not a nice thing to happen. Be kind to yourself also and do take some time for yourself too, for a nice lunch or something. One step at a time ❤️

zurigo · 23/11/2025 12:50

I think you need to come home asap OP and see the situation for yourself. Burns are very serious and your DF may need you to advocate for him. Can you get some family leave organised at short notice?

Showqa · 23/11/2025 12:46

No other injuries but he was on the floor for a long time, up against the radiator and hence the burns. The ambulance immediately said it was a burns unit situation.

They’re saying for sure he’s there for at least a week.

My head is spinning and I don’t know whether I’m over reacting or whether this could be the end of his life coming.

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ProfessorBinturong · 23/11/2025 12:42

Not quite the same circumstances, but my dad had Parkinson's and it was a series of falls that was the trigger for him going into residential care. Once he couldn't get himself up again it wasn't feasible or safe to rely on people coming in a few times a day. He may not like it, but at least in these circumstances you can blame the medics for the decision. And once he's there he may well come round to it being the right thing.

BadgernTheGarden · 23/11/2025 12:39

I hate to say it but I would think his chances aren't good, it sounds like quite serious burns and he's already not in good health and quite elderly, did he sustain any other injuries?

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