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Parents retired early…

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WeepingAngelInTheTardis · 13/11/2025 15:00

I dont know where this fits, my parents are in their early 60s so kind of fits? So sorry if this is the wrong board!

Both my parents took early retirement in their early 50s, they were warned by many family members not to do this but they had savings & assets and future proofed their home by moving to a bungalow. Fair enough.
However, since the COL I get constant weekly phone calls from them moaning about the prices of everything, politics and the state of the country & how they are struggling. (Will not touch their savings. Both will get large inheritances)
I am struggling to have any sympathy for them, Ive told them they could go back to work even part time but they wont consider it.
Other than ignoring the phone I have no idea what to do, Ive tried steering the conversation away but it always go back to that.
On paper they are quite well off but I feel like they want some kind of magic solution from me & its stressing me out.

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WeepingAngelInTheTardis · 13/11/2025 15:58

Ilikewinter · 13/11/2025 15:52

Can you be honest with them - tell them how they are making you feel? Other than that ignore the phone calls!

Yes Ive done that before. I even agree with them & tell them oh yes we are struggling too but they just go on & on even though if they wanted too they could withdraw some savings.
Maybe im grouchy they are due alot of money in inheritance (theyve sat me down & told me this even though I told them I dont need to know) they never used to be like this but age & retirement has made them really bitter.
I do see them outside of phone calls, and they bring it up in person too, their favourite topic is the COL & a certain Mr Farage. Driving me mad!

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rookiemere · 13/11/2025 15:53

I would out poor them which shouldn’t be hard. “Oh my goodness yes everything is so expensive. Dave and I were saying we will be lucky if we get to retire at 67, we just can’t afford to put anything in our pension.” If they turn it back to them “ Gosh childcare is so expensive. You’re right everything is so expensive.” Eventually they will get the hint and move on to discuss something else.

Ilikewinter · 13/11/2025 15:52

Can you be honest with them - tell them how they are making you feel? Other than that ignore the phone calls!

Lifeneedsaresetagain · 13/11/2025 15:41

@WeepingAngelInTheTardis do you talk with them outside of these calls

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