How old was your dad when he died?

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Mine was 83 and was being kept alive for a while. I think 80s is old but I can understand why people think early 80s is a shame to die as people often live longer. I have known a few people whose parent died at say 89 or 92 and they acted like they were taken too soon, I thought that was odd.

48 😢
I was 11

69. was right as rain one day, at death’s door the next. 6 months in hospital and eventually diagnosed with a rare condition. Not cancer but had to have chemo which gave him lymphoma which killed him quite quickly

My mum was early 70s

Mine was 66, and he was a very fit and healthy man who looked after himself. Very unlucky. Mum was 65- also fit and healthy and took care of herself. Very bad luck. I don’t anticipate a long retirement for myself- especially as I probs won’t retire till 70. 😂

Over 80 is a very good innings in my book.

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My Dad was 86 when he died. He had COPD and other medical conditions which worsened. He developed pneumonia which would not lift and went into multi organ failure.

That was over 4 years ago now. My mum is 90 and still around. She also has COPD but is stable for now. Both parents were lifelong dyed in the wool smokers although my Dad did give up a couple of years before he died. My mother now vapes rather than smokes. I know vapes have their controversies too, but this is about as far away from cigarettes as we will ever get her, and believe me they (vapes) are far preferable to the thick, dark and stinky cloud of cigarette smoke that always used to follow her around.

My Dad was 80. He had lung cancer then had a stroke. He was fit and active until 78, My grandfather was 83 and fit until over 80.
My ex (my DC Dad) was only 53 when he had a stroke.

83, but had been in poor heath for a few years and didn't have a good quality of life. I was devastated and still miss him terribly 8 years later.

My mum is 86 and still doing pretty well, no serious health issues, still living independently and mobility is decent. I hope I have her for a good few years yet, but when the time comes I hope she goes suddenly in her sleep and doesn't have a single day of suffering.

My Dad was 48.

Sepsis after he contracted MRSA in the hospital after surgery. He’s had a heart attack and the surgery was for a bypass.

If he didn’t smoke and eat carbs out the wazoo (shredded wheat for heart health eh?) he could easily have lived a long life. He wouldn’t have needed surgery and wouldn’t have caught MRSA.

94 and he enjoyed fantastic physical and cognitive health his whole life (apart from the dying bit, but an extremely short illness saw him off).

AND he’d smoked heavily for at least 50 of those years.

85, a week after his birthday. He said he didn't want to be 85, and killed himself. Was a horrible shock when the Police came to tell me he'd been found dead.

My Dad was 69 and FIL was 72. Both due to NHS negligence!

70 - super healthy until pancreatic cancer diagnosis. Died within a couple of months. He'd only just fully retired and never got to do all his travel plans.

Not answering your question, but I wanted to join in, as my father is also 81 and still alive.

My father is in reasonable health. He has had a melanoma (isolated and treated) plus a hip operation but is otherwise fine. Reasonably active (walks) and eats well. My mother is younger and they still go on long-haul holidays. He started to seem old a couple of years ago. I don't think he will make 90 and I am not sure I would want him to unless his quality of life remains the same. He is not the kind of person who would cope well with being ill, immobile, or generally cared for.

I don't think 80 is "old old" nowadays but it can be. There are such healthy and active 80-year olds around but these will be generally be those who are lucky or have had a easier / more privileged life.

He was 64. He had a catastrophic stroke.

74 unexpected heart attack. He was fit and active and doing several hours teaching/practicing his sport per week.

I miss him so much, every day.

The only tiny consolation is that it was instant, and he was fine until he wasn’t. He had no slow decline. He had ants in his pants and couldn’t sit still for 5 minutes. He was also busy and doing something. He would have hated to get infirm, frail and lose his quality of life. I just wish I’d had a chance to say goodbye and tell him how amazing he was and how much I love him.

98, diagnosed with prostate cancer 35 years earlier, it eventually spread to his back 2 months before he died.

92, earlier this year

No underlying health conditions, just keeled over from a heart attack one day.
Was still active, going up to the shops every day etc.

35 - murdered - awful time

He was 95.

He was definitely old, but what age 'old' is depends on your family history to an extent, though, I think.

Very few people in my family have died before 90. My great uncle was 89 and was considered 'young' in comparison to his siblings who were all into their 90s when they died.

I think on a personal level it's relative to your own familial experiences what you consider old, rather than what national averages suggest.

56 from heart failure, he had a quadruple bypass 7 years earlier but it wasn’t enough.

65 went to the shop and never made it home had a heart attack in the street this was 3 years ago and i think about it everyday x