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How old was your dad when he died?

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litmuspaper · 11/11/2025 14:11

I posted earlier but didn’t get any responses, my wonderful dad is 81 and I’m starting to think and wrap my head around the fact he’s not got very long left given he has heart disease and seems to be declining.

My colleague said she thought this wasn’t that old, whereas I thought anything above 80 was.

How old was your DF when he died?

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SuperBlondie28 · 11/11/2025 20:39

58, he smoked, was overweight, ate wrong food, no exercise. Was supposed to take BP pills but didn't. Had angina too. Only found out after 1st heart attack. 2nd one killed him.

I was 20.

WearyAuldWumman · 11/11/2025 20:35

86 . His father made it to 81.

BerylThePeril44 · 11/11/2025 20:28

My Dad was 78. I felt cheated and that we should have had him another 5-10 years. It was lung cancer - looking back it was quick. He was fine in October, diagnosed at Xmas, gone by February.
My mother never got over it and so began her journey into dementia … Still going now - six years later. It’s torture for everyone 😢

MustTryHarderAndHarder · 11/11/2025 20:28

72 heart attack

tiddletiddleboomboom · 11/11/2025 20:28

74 so younger than yours OP

Luckyingame · 11/11/2025 20:27

Good riddance.

CarrierbagsAndPJs · 11/11/2025 20:25

74 after a very long cancer battle. He beat sepsis twice in that time. In the end there were no treatments left to try and his decline when they stopped was fast.

I miss him every day.

Squirrelsnut · 11/11/2025 20:23
  1. He was only very frail and needing support for about 3 years.
Mere1 · 11/11/2025 20:22

My dad was 86. My mum was 94. My husband’s dad was 61. His mum 46. I don’t think you can predict how long any individual will live. It’s best to enjoy the present and see those you love.

tinyspiny · 11/11/2025 20:21

51 massive heart attack , way too young .

devfire · 11/11/2025 20:21

Mine was 46 when he died and i was 20

Imperfectpolly · 11/11/2025 20:20

Unexpectedly at 60 due to undiagnosed heart disease.

Pianoaholic · 11/11/2025 20:19

My dad was 74 and died from prostate cancer which he was diagnosed with age 69.
This was in 2019. It had spread outside the prostate.
My mum died 3 years ago aged 75 from a brain tumour.
Her mum died in 2018 aged 99, the year before my dad, so she was a generation older really.

feellikeanalien · 11/11/2025 20:07

Mine died at 91, 8 months after Mum who was 87.

LindorDoubleChoc · 11/11/2025 20:06

My Dad was 81 and he died in 2011. He had lung cancer and had been a smoker for most of his life but not really post 60 (he sneaked the odd couple per day).

My Fil is currently 84 and has non-Hodgkins lymphoma, skin cancer and Parkinsons, and a family history of acute heart disease.

It's all a mystery.

Joystir59 · 11/11/2025 20:05

67

Elbowpatch · 11/11/2025 20:05

Early 90s. Died of complications following an accident. Sharp as a pin and active up until then.

AnnaQuayInTheUk · 11/11/2025 19:59

My dad was 78 but had a long history of serious illness, including CHF.

My mum is 83 and really well. Hopefully she will remain so for a long time

ProjectsGalore · 11/11/2025 19:58

47 and it has shaped my adult life.

Wtafisgoingontoday · 11/11/2025 19:57

My dad was 30, I cannot believe it was 48 years ago - seems impossible, I was 7 at the time.

Whynot35 · 11/11/2025 19:55

32

UniversityofWarwick · 11/11/2025 19:54

My dad was 52. I was 6.

Wallawallakoala · 11/11/2025 19:53

My dad died at 36 unfortunately, sorry that’s not a helpful contribution!

Notyours1 · 11/11/2025 19:47

41, brain haemorrhage. He was dead and buried within 5 days. I was 20.

Ronniesgirl · 11/11/2025 19:46

My dad was 50, bowel cancer. I was 19.