That about sums it up.
Elderly parent who is always one step ahead of me because she's thinking things I don't even think about. She has a doctor's appointment and the doctor's is around the corner from her but somehow she's wangled a lift from me. I'm supposed to be working so now will be calling work and going in late. She says her leg is 'bad' at the moment, yet will be fine walking everywhere else once I've dropped her at the doctors and won't want a lift back, will walk it and will do a few miles while shopping.
I don't mind giving her a life btw, it's the way she gets me in a trap each time over stuff. My point is that she doesn't need a lift, not in the least and I'm supposed to be at work then. She told me 2 weeks ago about this appointment and said she'd be arranging a lift from a local charity and that she likes that because she gets to meet new people. But now it's tomorrow and she's done FA about organising that.
I seem to be caught out by her all the time as she's plotting and planning things that I need to be doing with her. She has no empathy and only continually thinking about what she wants me to do for her. So I'm visiting to enjoy the company, meanwhile she's thinking only of what she needs me for.
Too late to change things now but I'm falling into the same trap repeatedly. I'm not functioning right or she's not. I don't seem to have any radar for when I'm going to be roped into stuff.
Can anyone relate? I don't mind giving her a lift, it's not about that it's about the traps she's setting constantly. She knows I'm supposed to be at work yet somehow she's convinced me that I need to call in, be late, and get her to the doctor's for what is a routine check up.
And worse, she is not direct, she hints about everything and still I fall in the trap.