So many threads about demanding parents.
I have an 88 year old mother who I have never had a good relationship with. She can be spiteful, unkind and ungenerous. I really don't have any good memories of her and she's upset me so much over the years. I have had many long periods of not being in touch. In the past couple of years she has become very erratic, confused and often rude. I suspect dementia.
I am the one closest to her geographically which means I get all of her demands and difficult behaviour. I try to avoid her as much as possible, but every so often there is a crisis where she is demanding I rush round and sort things out. Inevitably, at the time she is grateful, but then becomes rude, insulting and doesn't appreciate what i have done. I would rather not do anything.
Today was a case in point, I have ordered a replacement fridge for her with her full permission. All day she has been phoning me, messaging me and sending me confused messages. I take the sixth call of the day and she tells me she can't cope with all these phone calls, and please can I leave her alone.
I just can't cope with her. What do I do?