So to try and cut a long story short but still give enough information for advice! DM had an operation on her brain, its left her with impairment/disability. Social worker has assessed as not having capacity and done a DOLs. She is to be discharged from the rehab centre she’s spent 3 months at next week to home where social worker has deemed she needs care from being awake to going to sleep as she’s a risk to herself in the kitchen/if she goes outside on the road etc.
I have a million questions and concerns but honestly the one thing that is bothering me most is what if she refuses to go to bed? Obviously the care package has a time on it (9pm) as the worker has to go home! But the care package says they need to make sure she’s in bed before they leave - she’s stubborn and grumpy with the situation as it is - what if she just refuses to go to bed? What happens then? I’m an hour away, work full time, primary aged kids etc etc and feel panicked there will be some expectation that I drive down there at 10pm to try and sort it! I know it’s hypothetical and might not happen but I’m already so stressed with trying to sort out finance and a million other things that this single thing is really bothering me the most. Thanks!
edited to add. She doesn’t feel there’s a problem and she should be allowed to spill boiling water on herself if that’s what she wants to do. She’s not happy at the idea of having someone there all the time which is why I’m worried there might be issues.