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What do you buy your dad for his birthday when he has a life limiting illness

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Lottylove1 · 16/09/2025 11:03

My dad will be 85 in November. Up until recently he enjoyed days out golfing, gardening, walking and reading. however he now has an illness which means he probably hasn't much time left. Hes too tired to go out and doesnt enjoy food anymore although is not bedbound. I want to get him something special for this 85th. But what do you get for someone who is dying?

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FuzzyWolf · 16/09/2025 11:14

I’m sorry your dad is so unwell.

How about something indulgent to keep him comfortable and warm? Or some technology to entertain? Perhaps most of all he would enjoy your company and doing something quiet with you (mine would enjoy a game of chess but appreciate that’s quite niche).

Gingercar · 16/09/2025 11:13

Audio books were good when my parents were starting to struggle. Or dvds. Things to keep them busy/entertained on days when they’ve no energy.

CraftyNavySeal · 16/09/2025 11:13

Does he like listening to music or the radio? An Alexa could be good

netflixfan · 16/09/2025 11:12

I got dad a lovely jumper when he was dying. Only 51 bless him ❤️

KatSlayMoon · 16/09/2025 11:11

That sounds really tough OP. You say he enjoyed reading, would he be open to listening to audiobooks? You could buy a subscription for him? And if he has a favourite book maybe see if there is a first edition or special edition copy he might enjoy? They tend to be highly valued by book lovers.

TreeGrass · 16/09/2025 11:11

A cosy blanket

TreeGrass · 16/09/2025 11:11

sorry To hear this, it’s hard

is there any chance he would want to go out, do one of his previous hobbies? If so I’d just try for that.

if not then something Related… a golf book, watching a film about the hobby together.

Take him to an RHS garden for afternoon tea, or even just a cup of tea.
a ready made pot of grown flowers / bulbs etc
if he still has his wits about him and enjoys clothes, then a golfing branded t shirt.
kindle for reading
new books
box of chocolates
cut flowers
print artwork
a nice framed photo of the two of you, or him and friends

Enterthewolves · 16/09/2025 11:10

I got my Dad cashmere socks and a cardigan - he felt the cold and they were soft and luxurious. I’m sorry your Dad is unwell.

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