If a parent goes into a care home will the LA come for some of the money from the sale of their house?

Someone already mentioned it here but the biggest issue is that she goes into a care home that you have all chosen fit for her, she pays with her own money and then that runs out, and then the LA have the right to move her into a crappier care home which is cheaper. And trust me u do not want that and you'll struggle to have a say. So I reckon you're dad might end up paying for her care home anyway if he wants her to stay in the care home he chose for her. If not, then, well I'm not gonna say what kind of man he would be.

Blimey people are self righteous, unpleasant and tone deaf on the internet aren’t they? Any excuse to put the boot into a woman who has given up her job to care for her very ill mother and is just looking for advice

slow handclaps all round

And you have given up work, bringing all the implications of that, to care for your DM.

No. Nobody would want to pay tens of thousands for care if they could possibly avoid it, and neither would you I suspect.

Indeed it does. Double standards at play.

It's likely she may need a secure dementia wing.
My MIL spent her last months there (she was under a Section so the LA paid).
The wing is part of the home that my FIL is in and I did note that there was more continuity of care in the dementia wing. I suppose they require staff with higher levels of training and thus it is easier to retain staff.
Despite my FIL's £8000 monthly fees the turn over of staff is huge. They might get fabric napkins and fresh flowers in the foyer but you never know who'll be caring for him from one week to the next.

Morally wrong but lots of people with money/assets etc don't want to pay from their money/assets and want others to pay instead, including people with little in assets paying tax so that an inheritance can be passed on. It's a greed filled world we live in.

So basically you want to avoid paying for any care associated with your mother and have others pay for her care even though your parents have investments are other assets. So someone with no assets taxed on their job should pay towards your mother's costs - so you can spend it all on yourself maybe?

OP, I feel for you, having been in similar situations twice so far.
My FIL had dementia, but also lung cancer. He was awarded CHC because of his medical needs, and because his prognosis was that he had less than 12 weeks to life, so essentially needed end of life care.
Sadly, he only lasted 7 weeks.

My mother had dementia, but as she was 99, I was told that they don't give a dementia diagnosis to anyone over 90. This is to avoid any funding issues, so we weren't able to claim anything. My father had died several years earlier, so my mother's house had to be sold to pay for her care. As I looked after her finances, it fell to me to complete all the forms for the financial assessment. They did go back seven years, and we had to pay the full care costs for the 2.5 years she lived there.

My best advice when looking at care homes. Ignore the posh carpets and curtains. Take notice of the smell of the place. Talk to staff, especially the manager, who can make or break a place. And speak to the local vicar, who is likely to be a regular visitor. I spoke to one who said she had stopped visiting one home as the staff just used her as a babysitter whilst they went for a smoke break!

Good luck OP.

I fail to see why my comment was pulled? If someone was deliberately trying to get out of paying care fees in order to pass on a massive inheritance then that would be out of order. And I wasn't the only one to say it.

I understand OP is just going along with her dad's wishes but it's on morally shaky ground.

Do they? We have never been asked for anything other than present finances. I suppose if they suspect deprivation they might check but there is no time limit for that.

Please bear in mind that it is possible that your mum may not be accepted in a residential home but might need a nursing home with her level of care needs. And you have to factor in potential deterioration (sorry) as you do not want her being moved around once she is settled, if the home cannot meet her needs.

Some residential and nursing homes have special facilities for people with dementia, so look out for that.

Try not to worry your dad won't be made homeless. However, he may need to go into a home one day so you'll be paying for both. Our council expect the house to be sold at this stage.

In Scotland, LA's go back 7 years for a financial assessment. Investments etc. prior to then will not be taken into account, however interest from anything will be counted. I don't know about other areas, but you should find out.

I know you will feel sad, but It will also be a big weight off your shoulders when she moves

suddenly all those logistical tasks you’ve been doing like filling prescriptions, organising personal care etc will all be taken care of. You will get some bandwidth back and a bit of breathing space. Your mum would not want you to be in the stressed place you describe

In our council in Wales that would be considered deliberate deprivation because your mother had the diagnosis before this was set up. Our council would fight it. However,, I've zilch ideas what happens in England or Scotland.

This!
Amazing how many people are keen to avoid paying their own way! Why should struggling young tax payers pay for care that the elderly have means to pay for themselves!!!

The council will do a financial assessment when the time comes and yes the house will be included.

If they have a great deal of equity then personally I would think if it’s fairer and better for her for your father to actually draw down a fixed sum via equity release ( types vary including ones you still pay the interest on) and actually have a care home that suits her needs and you feel comfortable about , rather than any old place that the LA ‘might’ put her in if not able to self fund. However might be worth checking out places you like and then using equity release to ‘top up’ between the cost and what LA might contribute once her own funds run out