My mother was given her mother’s diamond ring after her death. Nan died 47 years ago. .
Now my mother is very old and frail. We have spoken about her wishes for after her passing. She has singled out one niece that she would like the ring to be given to. However mum has several nieces and none of the others have been bequeathed anything.
I can already see this is going to be an absolute shit show. The others are going to feel hurt even if the reasons for the decision are explained.
For clarity the Will states that I inherit everything. The matter of the ring is verbal instruction from my mum not explicitly stated in the Will. I don’t want the ring. It holds no sentimental value for me.
Do you agree I point out to mum how unfair the others will see this. But then what happens to the ring? The only other surviving child of my grandmother is my Uncle. That would make sense it’s his mother’s ring we are talking about.
Personally I would like to sell the bloody thing and give the money to charity when the time comes. But that would also cause an uproar. My cousin asked my mother to show her the ring today. Awkward as she is not the niece that mum intends to bequeath the ring to.
I need to have a conversation with my mum. Knowing
my mum she won’t have the balls
to explain her wishes to the wider family and I will get the fall out.
The last few months I have had a basin of my mum saying one thing to me and another to my cousins. She’s been quite two faced and I’ve felt played.
Sorry that turned into a rant. What would
you do?