Sister and I have joint POA over elderly mum. She lives alone and health is failing due to heart disease, diabetes and still smokes.
Its usually me doing the visits, organising a cleaner, getting his dinner, generally helping. Sister goes round once every 2 weeks to 'help'. Refuses to do more. Would rather she be in a home as its easier for her.
Mum is failing health wise but manages with help from me and cleaner. Dr has checked, she is mentally competent.
Sister has knickers in a twist now as she's refusing to go to Dr and wants me to push her into a home.
I've explained its mums choice and theres nothing we can do except support her until her health deteriorates. sister has now gone to relatives and made up stories about how bad she is. (classic sister tactics)So now I'm getting grief from all quarters!
Any advice? I lpve my mum very much but respect this is her life, her decision and ultimately sadly her death.