DM going downhill fast but blood tests & investigations are coming up with nothing…

I’m sorry for your loss OP and sorry the answers came too late.

OP’s Mum has now passed away.

My FIL had rapid weight loss, severe back pain which made him virtually bed-ridden . After a very worrisome few months, he was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease and doing much better now that’s he’s on the correct medication. He didn’t have any neurological symptoms, just weight loss and back pain. Have they considered Parkinson’s?

I'm so sorry for your loss OP. Take care of yourself

Please don't start these types of supplements without consulting a doctor. They can interact with other medications, impact kidney or liver function and skew blood results.

I’m sorry for your loss OP. I’m glad your DM was peaceful at the end.

Sorry for your loss op. And I agree with this

Sorry for your loss OP, sounds like something pretty catastrophic which was undiagnosed, medicine isn’t an exact science. But answers always make it easier to accept. Thinking of you.

I'm sorry for your loss. It must have been hard to watch her decline and not have any answers, well at least until it was too late. I feel like people get written off medically after a certain age.

I found some of the replies on this thread depressing. Yes, 79 is old, but many people of this age and older are living well and enjoying life. The idea you should accept a loved has just got old and probably going to die soon is a bit sad. I could understand many of the replies if the OP mum had been 89.

I'm sorry for your loss. It must have been hard to watch her decline and not have any answers, well at least until it was too late. I feel like people get written off medically after a certain age.

I found some of the replies on this thread depressing. Yes, 79 is old, but many people of this age and older are living well and enjoying life. The idea you should accept a loved has just got old and probably going to die soon is a bit sad. I could understand many of the replies if the OP mum had been 89.

Sorry for your loss X

If that’s what they want. OP is describing pretty much what happened with a very close friend’s mum. She was older but had just had enough and was ready, told my friend so several times and passed quietly, 2 weeks or so later.

I'm so sorry for your loss @Mini712
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Would second reading Kathryn Mannix, her books got me through my Dad's last months in relative sanity.

If at all possible I would push your father into getting a cleaner and gardener now. My father is my mother’s carer and he is now absolutely exhausted and beginning to get unwell himself. My mum has been like yours for years now. It’s awful and I’m sorry you are going through this.
I found listening to Kathryn Mannix very insightful.

My relative had similar symptoms- no appetite and very little energy and after a fair few months of investigations it was found to be leukaemia. He then had treatment for a another few months but it was sadly unsuccessful and he passed away.

It sounds as though she is coming naturally to the end of her life, should that be now or a year down the line. Sometimes people dont need a "cause/reason". Apologies if this sounds harsh, sometimes families find it easier to have a cause/blame.

Have they checked her calcium levels

At 79, OP, I think I'd focus on making sure that she's well looked after and on only essential medication. I worked in elderly care for many years, and saw a fair few relatives desperately pushing for tests, answers and medications that rarely helped. Our bodies start slowing down at some point, and if the GP hasn't found anything, I would accept it for what it is and just focus on what's in front of you. I'd also add in that my DH has got AF and is on Bisoprolol - it makes him very very tired and sluggish at times.

I lost my Dad 2 years ago. The road to acceptance is a long and troubling journey.

I don't know what you are talking about. I'm not asking OP to buy medicines from some dodgy online store. I suggested trying alternative medicine from certified doctors or practitioners. My own aged father has experienced great benefits from Ayurveda, after his cancer surgery. There are no steroids in it. If you don't know about something, don't unnecessarily spread misinformation.

@FieryA there are frequently terrible side effects from unregulated medicine, which is why there is regulation of medicine at all. High doses of unregulated steroids in those meds might result in appetite increases or other things you might want, but they’d come at a cost. I think it’s incredibly irreponsible to recommend that sort of stuff.

Breathless does sound like heart or lungs, I assume BP is OK. Have they tried nebulisers to help her breathing?

Urinary tract infections can also be very debilitating and cause mental confusion in older people.

I know everyone is different but from relatively well to hardly eating sounds like it might be depression. My experience of aging is there is a falling lots stage before real decline. It seems too early and sudden.