Although she doesn't have dementia as such, my mother (88),.has some cognitive impairment. Within the last few weeks she's been diagnosed with aortic stenosis and she won't agree to any procedure to help it. There is no other treatment. I'm not sure how much she has taken this in.
Have you dealt with a similar situation? I don't know how to tell her when she's in discomfort that it won't get better. The breathlessness can be quite distressing.
I don't know how or whether to talk about it being incurable. I mean only when she's in a particularly bad way with it. I wouldn't talk about it in the times when she's not too bad..
I hope this makes sense.