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Office of Public guardians investigation

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Spendysis · 24/01/2025 18:59

Does anyone have any experience of office of public guardians investigations.

I have mentioned my situation on here plenty of times on various threads

I reported my dsis for financially abusing dm over a year ago and it has finally been assigned to an opg investigator who advised me I wouldn't get any updates or hear from them unless they need more information.

I have just had a call from an independent doctor who opg have instructed to visit dm to assess her capacity and if she is vulnerable being influenced etc.

Will opg inform me if any action has been taken like if they remove dsis as poa? If they do who does poa go to can dm choose or is it chosen for her. Will I be informed when they close the investigation?

Social services visited dm previously and reported it to the police who then closed the case unless opg come up with something will opg notify them directly if they do find something? I think ss have opened their case again but I've not heard anything other than a generic email

Just wondering if anyone has any experience of any of this so I know what to expect

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Spendysis · 24/01/2025 22:31

@MissMoneyFairy thank you

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MissMoneyFairy · 24/01/2025 21:46

Spendysis · 24/01/2025 21:28

What if dsis doesn't send in the bank statements can opg contact the bank or apply to the court to get access I can't see her willingly sending them

She has to produce them

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Spendysis · 24/01/2025 21:28

What if dsis doesn't send in the bank statements can opg contact the bank or apply to the court to get access I can't see her willingly sending them

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Spendysis · 24/01/2025 21:01

@ByQuaintAzureWasp I know you are right i was shocked when the last few times i went round and she didn't invite me in just made excuses like there was no point as she hasn't been doing anything so no point

I am hurt and disappointed with her that she has allowed dsis to do all this as social services think she has capacity so i think i gave up to protect my own mental health we were all very close until this happened i am very hurt by them both of them as are my young adult dc

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ByQuaintAzureWasp · 24/01/2025 20:34

Don't not visit your mum even if you have to stand on the doorstep. Take flowers or cake.
Sorry you are going through this, hope it gets sorted. If your sister is doing what you think it's despicable.

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Spendysis · 24/01/2025 20:15

@DianaTavernerFirstDesk thank you. The statements will show dsis transferring money from dm account to her own which she then used to pay her own bills and for her own personal spending. Apart from weekly food shopping dsis didn't realise need to use dm account or money as all her bills come out her own account by dd

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Spendysis · 24/01/2025 20:02

@MissMoneyFairy I believe dsis is stealing from dm by transferring money from her account to her own to use for personal spending and her own bills. I caught her out and we had a family meeting as i advised her she would get in trouble if the bank picked up on it or if dm needed care in future etc dsis blocked me afterwards and has made my relationship with dm difficult I believe this is what she is still doing it

Dsis had her remove me as poa and since registered poa with the bank has convinced her to do an equity release mortgage dm told me dsis needed it to do home improvements on her own house and go on holiday land registry confirmed this has gone through and changed her will. She has isolated dm who no longer lets me in her house when I go round to see her so I don't go anymore as I can't have a conversation on the doorstep as there is a ring doorbell connected to dsis phone as far as I am aware dm still lives in her own house I periodically drive past and curtains open and close lights on etc

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DianaTavernerFirstDesk · 24/01/2025 19:24

Spendysis · 24/01/2025 19:09

Will dsis know she is being investigated by opg? Will they ask her for bank statements or receipts as part of the investigation

Yes, she will be aware as the OPG will ask her for copies of bank statements, receipts etc. I’m speaking from a position of having reported attorney’s to the OPG when I have had suspicions of financial abuse. In my experience the police will defer to an OPG investigation but will liaise with them as necessary.

MissMoneyFairy · 24/01/2025 19:17

As financial pia your s should be keeping records of any spending on mums behalf anyway, I'm no expert but it sounds awful, was she stealing, where does mum live at the moment.

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Spendysis · 24/01/2025 19:09

Will dsis know she is being investigated by opg? Will they ask her for bank statements or receipts as part of the investigation

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