Im sure this is sonething that many of us go through. I have a 76 year old mother that lives alone.
I live in a different country to her. I visited her there at Christmas. While I was with her I did a lot of practical things for her. I set up her panic button for her. I set up her bins for 2025 for her online. I helped her to set up mobile banking on her phone. I helped her set up online bill payments for different companies. I also helped her with something online to do with her pension. I did a lot for her.
I have one aunty (my mums sister) who drives me round the bend. She constantly shames me that I don't do enough for my mother.
Last year my mum had a fall and went into respite care. My aunt sent me a really nasty message saying "what are you thinking being in another country when your mother needs you at home. You should be ashamed of yourself".
I send my aunt a message pointing out that I work fulltime and it's not possible just to leave work. My mum was being looked after fulltime in a rehab part of a nursing home
My aunt never asks me about my own life. She only ever talks to me about my mum. I feel like she views me as a servant to my mum and never considers that I have my own life.
I was out on new years eve and my aunt texted me "happy new year have a good 2025.make sure you keep an eye on your mum next year".
The text annoyed me as I always feel like she's getting digs in at me , that I'm not doing enough .
I'm leaving tomorrow to go back to my country
It just annoyed me. It annoys me that she only sees to see me in relation to how much care i give my mum. She doesn't think that I have a job and that I live in a different country!
My aunt really guilt trips me and makes me feel bad. I've blocked her number now. But she has still made me feel bad again.
Anyone else get this treatment off relatives?