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Dad is hospital after - will they let him home?

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thethoughtofgettingout · 28/12/2024 13:24

I'm trying to find out what happens with older people whose homes are unsuitable for their needs after falling.

My dad is in hospital after falling down the stairs. He lost consciousness having had a heart attack. He hit his head hard when he fell. They think he had another heart attack whilst in A&E.

He is in his late 70's and is on a ward. He has a great deal of dizziness (has done for years) & nearly toppled again on the ward.
They are discussing stents & are sending him to a regional cardiac centre.
He has had a series of issues with his heart over many years, including previous heart attacks & aortic aneurysm. He has angina.
He has previously been told he is not fit enough for a heart bypass although needs one.

His lifestyle is terrible - still smokes & very immobile.

He lives alone in a tiny, Victorian terraced house with steep stairs. No downstairs loo or bathroom.
I've been nagging him for years to move to something more suitable but he is very obstinate!

My question is, will they discharge him home given his health?

He can't live with me or my sister as our homes are not suitable for lots of different reasons - I live four hours away.

What will happen now?
Will they discharge him home after treatment & expect him to wash / use commode downstairs indefinitely?
Will he be assessed regarding needing care?
If he can't go home will he stay in hospital or will they send him to a care home?

He is a bit confused but reasonably lucid.

I am hoping he will sell his house & get a supported housing type flat, but I'm trying to navigate this with no experience of these situations?!

I have spoken to him for years about moving & getting a plan in place for care BEFORE he needs it. But my worst fear is now being realised & I don't know what will happen now?!

Any advice or knowledge is gratefully received!

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thethoughtofgettingout · 28/12/2024 13:43

That's for all your messages - so, so helpful.
I will request a care assessment.
He'll be desperate to go home but I think he doesn't really understand quite how immobile he has become.

Some posters have mentioned a stairlift but his stairway is complicated & he could easily fall again getting in & out of seat + if he loses consciousness again, he wouldn't be able to stop himself from falling.
It might be a possibility - I have lost perspective as I am worried!

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Hoppinggreen · 28/12/2024 13:41

They will probably be pretty keen to turf him out with a "care package" that will involve someone popping in for 15 - 30 minutes up to 4 times a day.

Floralnomad · 28/12/2024 13:37

Could he manage with a stair lift at home or do you not think he can manage at all ?

Muchtoomuchtodo · 28/12/2024 13:32

He needs a full assessment of his needs and referral to a social worker.

Living downstairs with carers supporting might be an option if he can be safe inbetween their visits, if not he may need residential or nursing care.

AnnaMagnani · 28/12/2024 13:32

They will not keep him in hospital pending the sale of his house.

When they think he is medically fit for discharge he'll be assessed as to whether he can go home with or without a care package, if he needs equipment at home, to live on one level or can only manage in a care home.

Negroany · 28/12/2024 13:32

Social services will get involved and he won't be discharged unless they agree it's safe. There may be a respite facility he can go to.

My sister's dad is in this situation, he can't go home because his wife is a hoarder and it's too dangerous. So he's been in a respite place for over a year.

Starlightstarbright4 · 28/12/2024 13:30

My friends mum in 90’s went into hospital after a fall . No family nearby . She was moved to a care home .. Dad is still in the home but can financially afford the care home..

I would ask for an assessment before discharge

Nsky62 · 28/12/2024 13:28

Depends if he has suitable space down stairs, if so yes

craigth162 · 28/12/2024 13:26

In my limited experience they will send him home with a 'care package' if necessary. There is no space in hospital for those who don't medically need to be there. The system is falling apart unfortunately

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