Hello, I started a thread here about FIL living with us while recovering from heart attack. You were brilliantly helpful, thank you .mind you, you ALL said, don’t let him live with you! But I don’t know what else to do.
Please help again!
situation-FIL is staying here while recovering from a heart attack. MIL (who is bed bound and who he looked after) had to be put in a home. Probably forever, certainly while we sort out next steps.
DH (their son) has found a house to buy near us and wants to sell their house (500 odd miles away) it will give FIL and MIL a project, and will save on inheritance tax as it will be FIL main home. he cannot live in the home they have and it is too far for us to help. FIL happy with this plan, MIL wants to be the financial guru.
It all seems logical etc, BUT… FIL driving me crazy. I wfh and cannot get anything done as he is always padding about. I feel bad because he’s had a LOt to deal with - heart attack, UTi, so memory loss, really nasty wife, and total upheaval to stay with us where he is feeling useless.
My lovely teen son has had a lot to deal with before - re his sister- and is finally finding a place in the world, but..I’m sitting in the kitchen with him tonight and just getting him to open up and…FIL appears. So DS legs it. He just told me FIL wandered into his bedroom at night .
DS tells me it’s wierd, he doesn’t really want lots of people at Xmas as he likes it just me and dad, since DD left home.
there is so much in here that I need help with! But the most important is DS. Do I say,’yeah granddad driving me nuts too’ or do I say, ‘what a lovely chap! He’s interested in the things you like’
its tricky as, while their grandchildren were babies, MIL and FIL moved 500 miles away, so no relationship there.