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DNR

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username8348 · 28/11/2024 23:45

My mum had her annual Dementia review with the GP recently and the Dr asked me if she would want CPR.

I said that she'd never discussed it or expressed a preference so yes resuscitate her if necessary.

The Dr said to discuss it with my siblings. I don't understand why. Can anyone enlighten me on why we need to discuss it please.

She doesn't have any medical conditions apart from the dementia.

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lanadelgrey · 29/11/2024 00:02

It is quite a brutal procedure and even if the person is young and healthy they have a high chance of suffering adverse effects and will need further medical treatment. In effect, they are asking whether you feel your DM has lived to the full and it might be her time to go or not. As she can’t give consent, they have to ask you.

Infracat · 29/11/2024 00:01

My mums researched and told us many times she never wants to be resucitated. All relating to how traumatic it is.

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username8348 · 28/11/2024 23:59

livanlaterlaterlater · 28/11/2024 23:57

I personally would not agree to be resuscitated. The whole process is hideous ,undignified and the outcome is statistically, for any age group is poor.

Maybe read up on success rates for out of hospital cardiac arrests.
Sadly,people are not just allowed to die these days .

I'll do some research and look into it. Ty

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username8348 · 28/11/2024 23:58

jajhgyt · 28/11/2024 23:50

Can anyone enlighten me on why we need to discuss it please.

Because resuscitation is traumatic and for people with conditions such as dementia it's important to consider what benefit it would bring to them, essentially.

Yes, that's certainly a consideration. Ty

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livanlaterlaterlater · 28/11/2024 23:57

I personally would not agree to be resuscitated. The whole process is hideous ,undignified and the outcome is statistically, for any age group is poor.

Maybe read up on success rates for out of hospital cardiac arrests.
Sadly,people are not just allowed to die these days .

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username8348 · 28/11/2024 23:57

lozmur · 28/11/2024 23:48

hey! I'm a carer have been for 9 years and it all depends on her quality of life if you think she has a good quality of life still then I wouldn't sign it but there's a lot of risk with CPR like broken ribs etc

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Yes I understand it can be quite traumatic and if she was very frail and had been ill for a long time, I could understand the question.

However her health is quite robust and she's not suffering.

Thank you.

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jajhgyt · 28/11/2024 23:50

Can anyone enlighten me on why we need to discuss it please.

Because resuscitation is traumatic and for people with conditions such as dementia it's important to consider what benefit it would bring to them, essentially.

lozmur · 28/11/2024 23:48

username8348 · 28/11/2024 23:45

My mum had her annual Dementia review with the GP recently and the Dr asked me if she would want CPR.

I said that she'd never discussed it or expressed a preference so yes resuscitate her if necessary.

The Dr said to discuss it with my siblings. I don't understand why. Can anyone enlighten me on why we need to discuss it please.

She doesn't have any medical conditions apart from the dementia.

hey! I'm a carer have been for 9 years and it all depends on her quality of life if you think she has a good quality of life still then I wouldn't sign it but there's a lot of risk with CPR like broken ribs etc