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So bloody exhausted waiting for someone to die 4

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StiffyByngsDogBartholomew · 25/11/2024 10:14

continuing from our last thread

www.mumsnet.com/talk/elderly_parents/5036546-so-bloody-exhausted-waiting-for-someone-to-die-3?page=40&reply=140073671

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BlueLegume · 25/11/2024 11:50

@funnelfan brilliant post and I thoroughly agree with you. The current bill going through parliament would be no use to my father at the stage he is at because he cannot make sound decisions.

I do think that anyone who has gone through an elderly relative literally being kept alive with zero quality of life at an astronomical cost - often to the public purse - will have some really valid contributions. Most of us can distinguish between someone with a quality of life - a many disabled people feel vulnerable to such a bill - but there will be safeguarding in place. I really reject the ‘oh it’s a slippery slope’ argument.

TheShellBeach · 25/11/2024 11:47

A short bout of pneumonia would be a preferable end to the inexorable deterioration of DMs’s Parkinson’s and dementia

Yes, agreed.

Except some idiot doctor would inevitably prescribe antibiotics.........

funnelfan · 25/11/2024 11:43

Thanks for the new thread.

I’ve had a snuffly nose, sore throat and cough for over a week now. I’ve come to the conclusion it’s either the weirdest virus or (more likely) my seasonal allergies have become non- seasonal, because this is how they usually kick off in March.

back when I thought it was the beginning of a cold, I was not panicking at the thought I might have passed it on to DM as I would have done last year. Then when I was watching a piece on the assisted dying bill I realised I didn’t even feel guilty at not being worried about passing on a cold to DM. A short bout of pneumonia would be a preferable end to the inexorable deterioration of DMs’s Parkinson’s and dementia.

There’s an “all life is sacred” strand of argument used by some opponents to the assisted dying bill. I do not agree with this strand of argument - life is precious and to be valued, but sometimes people may be alive yet they do not live, they exist. I suspect that modern Western society’s sanitised approach to death combined with an overconfidence in medical science and a dash of “there’s always hope” has made us too afraid to say we’re all mortal and a good death is something to value too

TheShellBeach · 25/11/2024 11:39

Thank you, Stiffy.

How's Constable Oates today?
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CaveMum · 25/11/2024 10:37

Thanks for the new thread @StiffyByngsDogBartholomew

Stiff cups of Brew all round!

EmotionalBlackmail · 25/11/2024 10:34

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