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Is 25 c excessive

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RoseyLentil · 24/11/2024 09:47

Went to visit MIL yesterday afternoon and her house is so hot 🥵
When she went upstairs i checked the central heating control panel and it was on 25 degrees centigrade 🥵
She'd spent the first half hour after our arrival complaining that she wasn't eligible for the winter fuel payment anymore cos of her getting her husbands pension. Hubby and I were sat in our shirt sleeves.
We're both over 50, I probably run hot due to menopause and MIL if mid 80's. My own parents have their house at 19 and fin go that fine. My mum is early 80's and Dad is 90.
Just looking for others experiences. I always end up with a banging headache when I'm there.

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WickedlyCharmed · 24/11/2024 10:27

DH nan’s house is like this, I always have a banging headache after 20 minutes there.

But it’s her house, her bills, her money, and she can more than afford it.

If we’re visiting her I make sure to wear lightweight clothes.

As a PP said, I personally find 19 degrees sufficient but I’m not elderly, I’m up and down the stairs, moving around, etc.

Skepticgal · 24/11/2024 10:19

My mother keeps her house really warm, but she feels the cold now now that she is very elderly. It's very common.

FiveShelties · 24/11/2024 10:17

The only person turning the heating down should be the one who pays the bill. My Mum used to feel the cold and I would never have turned her heating down.

Enterthedragonqueen · 24/11/2024 10:11

I'd turn it down to 23° and not say anything, she probably wouldn't even notice as it's a marginal drop.

RedHelenB · 24/11/2024 10:09

Devilsmommy · 24/11/2024 09:55

Same here, 23 is the sweet spot. She probably won't notice if you turn it down

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You can't turn down someone else's heating.

Tessasays · 24/11/2024 10:05

Tessasays · 24/11/2024 10:04

I'm 30 with my children and I crank mine up to 23 ish everyday. There was one day though when my son (9) said mum I'm cold can I turn the heating up a bit, I said yeah go on then.

anout 20 minutes later me and OH were sweating buckets, I had a banging headache. Went to turn it down it was on 30 😂

we had a conversation about acceptable heating temperatures after that. 23 is the limit now

I meant 3 children

Tessasays · 24/11/2024 10:04

I'm 30 with my children and I crank mine up to 23 ish everyday. There was one day though when my son (9) said mum I'm cold can I turn the heating up a bit, I said yeah go on then.

anout 20 minutes later me and OH were sweating buckets, I had a banging headache. Went to turn it down it was on 30 😂

we had a conversation about acceptable heating temperatures after that. 23 is the limit now

MrsRobinsonsHandprints · 24/11/2024 10:01

What is this obsession with treating older people as children?

Or is this a Labour Bot trying to convince us all that the rich lazy old people don't deserve the WFA as they are so wasteful.

Why are you looking for other experiences?

Devilsmommy · 24/11/2024 09:55

Vax · 24/11/2024 09:49

Yes. I like my house hot and that's 22/23. 25 can easily be turned down and she'll not notice except in her bill.

Same here, 23 is the sweet spot. She probably won't notice if you turn it down

Dragonsandcats · 24/11/2024 09:53

I think 19 is a bit on the cold side unless you’re moving around a lot. But 25 is definitely too hot for me!

MereDintofPandiculation · 24/11/2024 09:52

My father’s nursing home is warm but about 21/22 rather than 25

Vax · 24/11/2024 09:49

Yes. I like my house hot and that's 22/23. 25 can easily be turned down and she'll not notice except in her bill.

PermanentTemporary · 24/11/2024 09:49

It's not unusual. People do feel the cold more when they're elderly, plus if they are declining cognitiveky they get stressed about radiators going off (because it's hot) and crank it up. Give her a cashmere jumper and a heated throw for Christmas.

TeenToTwenties · 24/11/2024 09:49

Some older people can feel the cold more due to less activity, age, and some illnesses/conditions.

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RoseyLentil · 24/11/2024 09:48

Sorry for typos

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