Is 25 c excessive

I'd be pretty uncomfortable at that temperature, that's tropical holiday weather rather than British winter clothes. Mine is 18 and that's plenty warm enough to sit in a t shirt

We used to dress for the tropics under our winter coats when going to visit the grandparents. Some people do get very cold when they get old.

she is an adult and it is her home. She gets to pick the temperature.

It is very warm - my mother's sheltered living place had the heat set at 23 c and that was the very dead of winter, though it was bloody freezing this week admittedly.

I'd just be upfront with your MIL that you are menopausal and suffering the heat, and go out for breaks to the back door, surely she'd understand.

When I was a kid, my parents used to turn up the heating when my grandmother came over, because she felt the cold. When she left, they'd open all the windows (even on christmas day) and enjoy the fresh air.

Now, when my parents come over, we turn on the heating and sweat buckets, and my mother sits under a heated blanket in front of the roaring fire and complains that it's freezing. When they leave, we open all the windows and enjoy the fresh air.

We're staying with my sister at the moment. She turned the heating on the other evening because it was approaching freezing outside, and my kids both complained that it was too hot and changed into shortie pyjamas.

Age messes up your thermostat.

Some people need it warmer. I’m one and my house is generally 23/24. My mums care home was always very warm, I assumed it was what the residents needed.

It's nice to have a post about elderly parents actually having heating on rather than all those where parents are refusing and sitting in the cold! Is there an issue with cost?, if not I'd be happy she's nice and toasty.

I wasn't havng a go at you, @RoseyLentil - it was @Vax @Devilsmommy @Tessasays @Enterthedragonqueen who all said that you should just turn it down and she won't notice anyway. Which is clearly unreasonable!!

Age UK recommends at least 18 degrees to avoid health problems but I personally find that too cold if I'm not moving around much - I sometimes WFH and if I'm sat in one place in a succession of meetings it feels cold.

So we heat to 20 degrees. An older person is more likely to feel the cold as they tend to be more sedentary. I do find care homes and hospitals very overheated - made me feel ill on the maternity ward! Ultimately it's her choice though.

That's excessively hot, IMO, and I'm not surprised you'd get a banging headache. I put our central heating on 19 and that's perfect. I can't bear being too hot!

Skinny elderly people have no body fat so they really feel the cold

Firstly to the people saying it is normal for older people. You don't lose all your individualism when you pass a certain age. 'Older people' are not a heterogenous blob.

Secondly, if they are paying the bill it is their choice. If you come in from outside, the temperature will feel much warmer when you go in than if you have been sitting there all day. Can't you just wear lighter clothes and take a little electric fan?

@muddyford I would have to go and sit in the garden sometimes at Christmas. I was dying from the heat 😂

And mine! I sit there in my T-shirt. The dog loves it though, sprawled in front of the fire.

Deafened not dead. Stupid fat thumbs!

I'd say that's normal for older people. My parents house is like a sauna 🥵

Old people don't move much so they get cold. Their circulation doesn't work as well as it did. They are generally on medications. If they want the house hot then it's their choice.

If your mum was complaining it was too hot and didn't understand how to fix that problem by adjusting the thermostat you could help but it doesn't sound like there is a problem here.

My friends dad used to have it so hot we'd have sweat running down our backs. And we'd be dead from the tv as we tried to talk.

Yet he'd be in front of the fire and tv with a blanket and a jumper. Complaining it's not that warm in here.
Bizarre. Getting old sucks.

It is not your place to turn down her heating! If she wants it at 25c - which admittedly would be too warm for me - then that is UP TO HER. She is not a child who should be told what to do.

I've no idea what my DM had her thermostat set at but I know we struggled to breathe with the heat in her house - especially in the living room with the gas fire on full. Old people who don't move around much (like my DM was) definitely feel the cold.
MIL who is always on the go, even at 96, has her house at a comfortable temperature.

That would be cool for my mum. She has the thermostat at 27 or 28. I always keep a bottle of water in my car to drink after I've left and dress in layers so I can strip off there. Mum will be sitting in a jumper.

Im the same age as you and have been putting it on at around 22 or 23, I feel the cold and cant get warm.

I love my heated throw it’s all furry and it’s known as the wolf blanket