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DF can't stand or walk, hospital want to send him home

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TheMerryAquaBird · 09/11/2024 08:55

DF collapsed in the week as he suddenly lost the strength in his legs, he's been in hospital but they are keen to discharge home. He hasn't regained the strength in his legs so can't stand or walk, so I don't see how he can take care of himself, get to the toilet etc. DM has terminal cancer so can't be his carer, I'm scared it'll be left to me. I'll help where I can but can't do it full time.

Can we just refuse him coming home until he can walk? What help can I ask the hospital to provide, if any?

Thanks x

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Newterm · 09/11/2024 09:05

He will be sent home even if bed bound, as long as there is a care plan for him. Don’t agree to do any caring yourself

Lifeglowup · 09/11/2024 09:05

You need to speak to his named nurse and ask if the physios and OT have seen him. You need to be clear that you don’t believe this is same discharge. You need to really push back and don’t be afraid to use PALS or formal complaints procedure if needed.

295bkq · 09/11/2024 09:00

Hospitals tipping elderly people out into bad situations happens all the time. You need to tell them that it will be an unsafe discharge and that you are not able to help and don’t live there/work full time/whatever. Even if you do plan to help, you need to tell the hosptial that you are unable to.

DinnaeFashYersel · 09/11/2024 08:59

Call social services.

He needs and assessment and a care plan

Borgonzola · 09/11/2024 08:58

What have they offered in terms of discharge planning / reablement? If he's medically well enough to go home but has care issues they should have a plan in place such as carers etc.

I say this knowing it doesn't always pan out as my mother was in hospital for a month recently with a separate issue, lost her mobility while in there and yet they still let her go after minimal physio and she ended up in a reablement unit after a week as my dad couldn't cope.

Have you spoken to any OTs, and what does the doctor say?

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