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My grandad completely forgot he took out a lifetime mortgage

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hobbitum · 08/11/2024 14:45

A few hours ago I didn't even know what a lifetime mortgage was and wish I didn't now!

My grandad is 90 and thought he had paid off his mortgage. He was getting annual statements that he was putting to one side and not looking at properly thinking they were just a formality.

He was informed this week a new provider was taking it over and his friend saw the letter and realised what has happened. He has made no repayments or paid off any interest for who knows how long.

My grandad doesn't remember taking this remortgage out and it now looks as if it will take his home and every penny of his when he's gone.

The more I find out the more I'm worried there is no recourse and his own awful mistake. He's devastated, completely shocked and feels a failure - I think this will seriously affect his health which is my main concern. He is of sound mind.

I don't know why I'm posting here to be honest - surely mortgage lenders should be checking in on customers like this and doing a bit more than just sending standard letters and waiting to take everything when you die? I just don't know how he could have got himself into this situation. What on Earth can I do to help?

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Bignanna · 08/11/2024 18:59

laraitopbanana · 08/11/2024 18:27

Hi op,

go and see a lawyer immediately and actually ask them how to get out of this. Noone here could tell you better than them..

Good luck 🌺

Surely it is not a situation you can get out of, if the contract was signed by someone of sound mind. Trying to prove otherwise would be very difficult. It’s a shame that he’s only just realised what it involved, having buried his head in the sand for so many years, but at least he enjoyed the money at the time, so that’s something!

Suzuki70 · 08/11/2024 18:56

hobbitum · 08/11/2024 18:24

Oh what an awful situation for you. So even if you make interest payments it still runs away with you? That must have been so upsetting. At the very least you found a solution before it was too late, even if your hand was forced.

No, it runs away with you if you stop paying the interest, as this poster did.

Iwantabrightsunnyday · 08/11/2024 18:56

KnigCnut · 08/11/2024 15:16

If it was a lifetime mortgage, surely he potentially doesn't have to repay anything? Some lenders, all payments are deferred. He has been given the equity and the lender owns that proportion of the house. When he no longer needs it, for whatever reason, the house is sold to pay the debt.

wow, that makes it so easy

friendlycat · 08/11/2024 18:55

Mumofteenandtween · 08/11/2024 18:52

Equity release is a solution to “asset rich, cash poor”.

The usual situation is as follows:-

Couple lived comfortably in nice big house on decent pension. Husband dies and takes quite a lot of the pension with him. Widow works her way through savings until these ran out. Widow is technically a millionaire but can’t afford to put the heating on. Widow has lived in house for 40 years and desperately wants to stay. Widow takes out equity release and lives her final years in the home she raised her children in with the heating on at full blast. Widow dies and family are rather disappointed to discover that they are not going to inherit a bundle after all.

(My gran took out equity release. My aunt and uncle still go on about it.)

A variant of this scenario is often the case.

However, what is sad is that in virtually all cases it is much more sensible financially to sell and downsize and release money from the sale of the property. But often the practicalities and upheaval can't be faced. But the financial cost is high.

thisoldcity · 08/11/2024 18:53

For anyone wondering if there is any way you can say it was mis-sold or the person didn't understand what they were signing up to - further upthread I mentioned I've dealt with this for a friend of mine for whom I'm PoA. I looked into all the paperwork for his equity release and the person who visited his home who sold it to him virtually wrote out their conversation in full to demonstrate he knew exactly what he signed up to. Eg. 'So you are quite clear that you wish to not make any monthly repayments on a mortgage and you understand what that means? and 'you aren't worried about what happens to your house when you die as you don't have family to bequeath it to?' and so on. It is quite clear they discussed it, he knew what the deal was and he signed at the time. Later on, of course, he could hardly believe what the ramifications are now, but that's what happens when someone prefers not to think about such things and just wants to make life easier for themselves at that point. There was no scam, no mis-selling, but just someone who is quite naive about such things up against someone who had commission to make.

Sleepysleepycoffeecoffee · 08/11/2024 18:52

Bignanna · 08/11/2024 16:53

Because it may come in useful in the future. It’s much harder to get POA when someone is not of sound mind.

You can’t actually get power of attorney when the person loses capacity to appoint one. You’d have to get a court appointed deputyship which is much more expensive. I’d always advocate for sorting out a POA as soon as possible

Mumofteenandtween · 08/11/2024 18:52

AnonymousBleep · 08/11/2024 16:49

So a lifetime mortgage is something you can take out to get some equity release, then it just sits there accumulating interest and never being paid back until the owner of the house dies (or sells?) at which point the by now huge sum is paid for out of the estate? I'd never heard of this before and they sound incredibly dodgy! How is this legal? And what are the actual benefits of signing up for one - surely the person taking it out must be aware that they're basically signing away any chance of their kids owning their house, unless they're rich, in which case they wouldn't need a lifetime mortgage in the first place...?

Equity release is a solution to “asset rich, cash poor”.

The usual situation is as follows:-

Couple lived comfortably in nice big house on decent pension. Husband dies and takes quite a lot of the pension with him. Widow works her way through savings until these ran out. Widow is technically a millionaire but can’t afford to put the heating on. Widow has lived in house for 40 years and desperately wants to stay. Widow takes out equity release and lives her final years in the home she raised her children in with the heating on at full blast. Widow dies and family are rather disappointed to discover that they are not going to inherit a bundle after all.

(My gran took out equity release. My aunt and uncle still go on about it.)

Iwantabrightsunnyday · 08/11/2024 18:51

Has he actually himself taken this thing out or someone else? Can you check the initial agreement/contract whatever with dates, signatures , sums etc

DreamyDreamy · 08/11/2024 18:45

The difficult thing is that when people sign these contracts they are younger and have all their mind - they knew that repayment would be due at the end, they receive regular letters with the updated amount due.
Of course it is easy to excuse a 90y old for not fully understanding / not reading letters, but not so understandable when actually the letters started when they were in a better position and chose to let the debt grow.
At least it is good that there can’t be negative equity, this would be unfair.

TheDeepLemonHelper · 08/11/2024 18:43

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Mirabai · 08/11/2024 18:30

OP - this is actually not uncommon to the point I think these types of mortgages should be banned.

Do you know what year it was taken out because prior to 2007/8 when the regulations were changed there was a lot of mis-selling.

Even post 2008 I think there are too many older people taking out these mortgages without really understanding what they’re getting into. The mortgage companies require a lawyer to talk people through the contracts now but I think a lot of people still don’t understand them nonetheless and it’s not clear until further down the line.

Equally some old people understand the contract at the time and then go into cognitive decline. So in some cases they may have intended to downsize and pay off the contract but they become ill and infirm and forget about the whole thing.

The only plus side is that he cannot lose his house while he’s alive.

Bubblebuttress · 08/11/2024 18:29

Could you get LPA, tell your grandad you’ve fixed it… ( you wont have, but just to give him peace of mind)?

laraitopbanana · 08/11/2024 18:27

Hi op,

go and see a lawyer immediately and actually ask them how to get out of this. Noone here could tell you better than them..

Good luck 🌺

hobbitum · 08/11/2024 18:26

anya31 · 08/11/2024 18:05

A lot of older people see passing on a home as passing on a legacy for their family. His son is dead and you're all he has left, and he can't pass you a house.

I think it would be good to focus on what he can leave you - his love, his memories, his knowledge. You could spend some time with him, interviewing him on tape so you can pull together a special 'family book'.

No one in my family makes it to 90. At 90, he must have some stories to tell.

You just have to reframe what legacy means, why it's important and how he hasn't let you down. Having lost your father, you know - hell, you both know - how important time is. Your grandfather has given you lots of that.

Most of us would give any money away for more time with our loved ones. I suspect both you and your grandfather can understand that. You both know what it's like to not have 'enough' time with the people you love.

That's such a thoughtful thing to post. Thank you.

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MichaelandKirk · 08/11/2024 18:25

At 90 he won’t have full capacity. He won’t understand the world as it is now ( it’s very complex!).

You might think he has full capacity and he will probably tell you he has..yet he has got himself into this situation.

hobbitum · 08/11/2024 18:24

OTicepop · 08/11/2024 17:52

If the equity release was taken out over 20 years ago and no payment was made in that time, then yes it will be massive and more than likely take most if not all of the remaining equity.
Sadly that’s how equity release works. We took out equity release about 5 years ago to cover some debts and help children out.
We tried our best to make payments that atleast covered the interest that was added every month… but it became impossible. We realised quite quickly that in 30 odd years time, the amount outstanding would take all the equity in our house and there would be nothing left for our children.
we made the difficult decision to sell our house while we still had enough equity left to be able to buy ourselves a small flat.
in your grandad’s case, can you contact the lenders and try and find the original paperwork?
I wonder if he really understood what he was taking on?
it was very clearly explained to us but it might’ve been different 20 years ago.
im so sorry he has found himself in this position.
All you can do is reassure him that your only concern is his happiness and health and that he shouldn’t feel guilty if he doesn’t have an inheritance to leave you. Xxx

Oh what an awful situation for you. So even if you make interest payments it still runs away with you? That must have been so upsetting. At the very least you found a solution before it was too late, even if your hand was forced.

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lollylo · 08/11/2024 18:23

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It’s his granddaughter why on earth should she have. Goodness. I’ve not even ‘proved’ my parents as they still have capacity. Very odd

Puzzledandpissedoff · 08/11/2024 18:22

PetuniaT · 08/11/2024 18:16

.... absolutely and by a rogue salesman preying on the vulnerable

That may or may not be fair, PetuniaT

Nobody disputes there are such salesmen, but equally there are people who'll swear blind that they "didn't understand" if there's the slightest chance of free money, even if they've signed in blood on vellum to say they do

In the end everyone has to protect themselves, and that applies just as much to the equity companies as anyone else

fetchacloth · 08/11/2024 18:22

SafeandZane · 08/11/2024 14:51

Sounds like equity release

Yes, would agree. Many retired/widowed people took these out years ago, and maybe not realising the implications further down the line.

fufulina · 08/11/2024 18:21

So much misinformation here.
equity release - also called a lifetime mortgage, can be taken without paying interest (the interest rolls up and is added to the loan to be paid on death), or you pay interest only, so the lump sum you borrowed is still payable, but no interest accrues. Most are based on a percentage of the home value. In the early days, negative equity was a possibility, but since the late 2000s, most providers give a ‘negative equity guarantee’, meaning the loan will never exceed the value on the home on death. M

SilverChampagne · 08/11/2024 18:20

PetuniaT · 08/11/2024 18:16

.... absolutely and by a rogue salesman preying on the vulnerable

Op hasn’t mentioned when he took out the policy. It’s certainly long enough ago for him to have forgotten about it.
Why the assumption that he was vulnerable?

LadyLapsang · 08/11/2024 18:19

The problem is when older people are cash poor or simply want to live beyond their income, in common with some younger people, they need to get money from somewhere and if their relatives can’t or don’t want to help and they don’t qualify for benefits or charitable grants, then they don’t have lots of options. My MIL is older than your grandad and the amount the local authority gives her for care doesn’t meet the bill. She made really good provision for old age but care is expensive (and carers underpaid for the important work they do). If you just miss out on pension credit, then you miss out on winter fuel allowance etc. Even drawing up a loan agreement so we can loan her money interest free to be paid from her estate on death means we are both expected to pay for independent legal advice. I feel you are driven towards giving money, but then you pay twice as the inheritance tax on the estate will be is higher than it should be.

thebrollachan · 08/11/2024 18:17

Ignore the goading responses.

PoAs are useful for everybody. For instance if you get stuck abroad or in hospital. They're not just for comas and dementia, and the Attorney is expected act on instruction from the Donor if they're not incapacitated. I see OP has PoA in this case.

Some Equity Release Instruments entitled the lender to a percentage of sale value as well as interest.

Obviously you need to check the terms and an SAR would cover everything you need to know, including the possibility this was a fraudulent transaction by someone with access to GF's post.

If fraudulent, he can apply for an injunction on the Land Registry to remove the charge from the Register.

PetuniaT · 08/11/2024 18:16

SafeandZane · 08/11/2024 14:51

Sounds like equity release

.... absolutely and by a rogue salesman preying on the vulnerable

5128gap · 08/11/2024 18:15

hobbitum · 08/11/2024 14:52

No, sadly not. Thanks for the reply. Is it even worth trying to start making repayments of any kind, or is it a drop in the ocean now?

I just don't think he'll get over this. I'm not his carer but am his only relative really and am just thinking about how I can help him manage this.

If it was my 90 year old grandad, who wasn't on top off his affairs enough to know the deal (not reading his letters etc) I'd be very tempted to say "Don't worry Grandad I will sort it" and sheild him from the reality as far as i could without outright lies. At 90 no one is coming to evict him, so his worry will be that he's 'a failure' because he isn't leaving his house to you. I wouldn't let him end his days feeling that way. I'd heavily imply I'd fixed it and all would be well and keep my fingers crossed he didn't press me for details.