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What to do with proceeds of house sale (earmarked for nursing home)?

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redskydarknight · 05/11/2024 17:53

I wasn't sure whether to post this here or in Money Matters, but I figured there were probably people on here that have gone through this same dilemma.

Sadly MIL is now unable to live independently and is in a nursing home. Her house is being sold to pay for care (she has no other notable assets). The question is - where do we put the lump sum that this will generate? DH was just going to put it in her savings account but I pointed out that only £85000 would be protected. MIL doesn't have any other accounts. DH has PoA and can obviously open more in her name and spread the money about, but he has had previous bad experiences regarding the challenge of trying to do things with a PoA and would rather avoid if possible.

Is this just what everyone does, or is there another solution we are missing?

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redskydarknight · 05/11/2024 18:03

RosieMilkJug · 05/11/2024 17:58

Why sort of problems has he had, OP?

Just when doing other things (e.g. he applied for access to her online banking) nobody seems to understand the process to follow if you have a PoA rather than being the actual person.

He's spent hours on hold on the phone being passed from person to person; there's been insistences that he must come in to a physical branch/office which is often not very convenient, but even then he's been left waiting and passed from person to person. He's been given information that turns out to be wrong (e.g. with paperwork required and whether it has to be certified copies or originals) which takes more time. Basically what he hopes would be a straightforward process has never proven to be so.

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Flossflower · 05/11/2024 18:02

While I don't have the answer, it really does depend on how long you expect her to live.

RosieMilkJug · 05/11/2024 17:58

Why sort of problems has he had, OP?

Shouldbedoing · 05/11/2024 17:58

I think you can invest it to grow it (hard work) but you can't hide it or make big gifts at this point.

BlueLegume · 05/11/2024 17:55

@redskydarknight honestly I would message Martin Lewis Money Saving Expert.

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