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Is this fair?

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Cazzles · 15/10/2024 23:01

Good evening all 😁
This is my first time ever posting and sorry if it's the wrong place!😬🫣
I'm just looking for other people's opinions and as to whether I'm getting upset/annoyed for no reason.
A friend of mine's father is in a care home. My friends mother visits every single day and whilst there, will feed my friends father his lunch. My friends mother (and I don't know whether she asked or whether she was offered by the care home) is now having her lunch there, everyday, 7 days a week, and eats whilst feeding her husband. The meal is provided by the home. I don't know whether the family are paying for the care privately or if it's funded. My problem is that the home is charging the mother £10 a day for the small lunch and pudding she has. That's £70 a week on top of the at least £900 weekly care home fees.
I think it's absolutely disgusting that they are charging £10, especially when it's a mediocre meal and very small portions. I understand there being some sort of charge/fee, but £10!?! Is that a reasonable price to be expected to pay? Or are they taking the mick?
Sorry again if not the right place to post!
Thank you from a concerned friend.

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Carnationstreet7 · 15/10/2024 23:14

I don't think it's much in itself, you can easily spend that in Pret for instance but its just that it's 7 days a week so it's really adding up. It's a bit sad as she obviously just wants to be with her husband and make sure he eats. I wonder if she could go at cup of tea time instead and have a piece of cake with him etc or morning coffee/biscuits 💐

MotherJessAndKittens · 15/10/2024 23:12

You can't expect it to be free and probably she will get tea/coffee when the husband has one. She could take a packed lunch.

POTC · 15/10/2024 23:08

That sounds like a fairly standard meal cost to me, she doesn't have to order it from them
For context, at our sixth form college it would cost more than that to have a main meal with drink and desert

Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 15/10/2024 23:05

@Cazzles , it’s a lot isn’t it? The thing is care homes are businesses and upselling is part of any business model. The lady would do well to take a sarni with her.