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New ID for Elderly

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Userelderly · 15/10/2024 13:13

My father recently passed away and we're sorting out lots of banking and probate things for my Mum. She let her passport expire and although she has a driving license the picture fails most identity checks (and the passport picture is old also). I've suggested getting a new passport for ID purposes. She's never going to travel so doesn't need the passport for anything other than ID. Has anybody found another accepted form of ID for someone older who is not driving or travelling? Have looked on line and can't find anything. Thanks.

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BobbyBiscuits · 15/10/2024 14:58

@Attelina thank you x

Attelina · 15/10/2024 14:56

BobbyBiscuits · 15/10/2024 13:59

@arthar I'm absolutely not accepting you calling my comments ageist or insulting.

Well said. Your comments are perfectly fine and helpful.

StiffyByngsDogBartholomew · 15/10/2024 14:49

blimey, this is isn't AIBU, there's no need to jump down people's throats.

BobbyBiscuits · 15/10/2024 14:49

@arthar thank you. No worries. I'm sorry if my words did come off wrong. X

arthar · 15/10/2024 14:43

BobbyBiscuits · 15/10/2024 14:36

@MichaelandKirk sure, I get that but believe me I was not trying to be rude. Lots of people don't know they're entitled to AA and it's a really underclaimed benefit. But of course I didn't mean you'll be automatically be entitled. The last thing I wanted was to cause offence.

I apologise, I didn't take that from your initial comment. Sorry, my mistake.

BobbyBiscuits · 15/10/2024 14:36

@MichaelandKirk sure, I get that but believe me I was not trying to be rude. Lots of people don't know they're entitled to AA and it's a really underclaimed benefit. But of course I didn't mean you'll be automatically be entitled. The last thing I wanted was to cause offence.

ilovesooty · 15/10/2024 14:28

arthar · 15/10/2024 14:25

@ilovesooty

She referred to benefits she was entitled to. It's reasonable to suggest an application if there is an entitlement. She didn't suggest applying purely because she is elderly.

You must be reading something else.

She asked if she was claiming the benefits she was entitled to, and suggested claiming if there was an entitlement and she hadn't claimed. She never said there was an entitlement purely because she's elderly.

arthar · 15/10/2024 14:25

@ilovesooty

She referred to benefits she was entitled to. It's reasonable to suggest an application if there is an entitlement. She didn't suggest applying purely because she is elderly.

You must be reading something else.

ilovesooty · 15/10/2024 14:25

arthar · 15/10/2024 14:17

You would advise all people with an elderly patent to get them on attendance allowance and get a BB and you don't think that's ageist?

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That's not what she said.

MichaelandKirk · 15/10/2024 14:24

Sorry to be going on but Bobby - saying if they have got any type of illness - what anything at all?? That really isnt true and misleading. I have asthma. Is that allowed?

ilovesooty · 15/10/2024 14:24

arthar · 15/10/2024 14:16

@ilovesooty

She said "if" she has a Blue Badge. I hate ageism but I don't think that post was ageis

She said if she is not on attendance allowance 'get her on that' and get a BB. How is making that assumption not ageist, when the only factor to go on was indeed the fact she is older than OP?

She referred to benefits she was entitled to. It's reasonable to suggest an application if there is an entitlement. She didn't suggest applying purely because she is elderly.

LateToTheParty · 15/10/2024 14:24

Would a Citizen Card meet the criteria? It's a proof of age card but also accepted as Voter ID, recognised by the police. It's cheaper than a passport renewal.

www.citizencard.com/

shellyleppard · 15/10/2024 14:24

Would the gold card (travel pass) be okay for identification?? I used mine when I voted.

MichaelandKirk · 15/10/2024 14:22

Bobby - people dont just get AA and Blue Badges because they are elderly. Maybe it was the language you used but 'getting someone on to it' indicates that all will be accepted and that is definitely not the case.

My 89 year old Mum was refused AA first and its only when she had to get carers in that it was accepted.

Abra1t · 15/10/2024 14:20

Getting Blue Badges isn’t that straightforward in many areas! My parents had to be severely disabled to qualify for theirs.

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Userelderly · 15/10/2024 14:19

BobbyBiscuits · 15/10/2024 14:16

@Userelderly thank you. If she's got any kind of illness or disability she can still claim Attendance Allowance. It's not means tested, so it doesn't matter how much money the person has.
Definitely get the Blue Badge, my mum has one even though she doesn't drive but it's helpful for others to pick her up etc. x

Thanks. x

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arthar · 15/10/2024 14:17

BobbyBiscuits · 15/10/2024 14:12

@arthar well you're seeing things in completely the wrong way. I'd give that advice to anyone with an elderly parent. I have one myself and know what it's like. I'm quite perplexed you took what I said as insulting. It certainly was meant as the opposite.

You would advise all people with an elderly patent to get them on attendance allowance and get a BB and you don't think that's ageist?

arthar · 15/10/2024 14:16

@ilovesooty

She said "if" she has a Blue Badge. I hate ageism but I don't think that post was ageis

She said if she is not on attendance allowance 'get her on that' and get a BB. How is making that assumption not ageist, when the only factor to go on was indeed the fact she is older than OP?

BobbyBiscuits · 15/10/2024 14:16

@Userelderly thank you. If she's got any kind of illness or disability she can still claim Attendance Allowance. It's not means tested, so it doesn't matter how much money the person has.
Definitely get the Blue Badge, my mum has one even though she doesn't drive but it's helpful for others to pick her up etc. x

ILoveAnnaQuay · 15/10/2024 14:15

BobbyBiscuits · 15/10/2024 13:59

@arthar I'm absolutely not accepting you calling my comments ageist or insulting.

Well they were.

ilovesooty · 15/10/2024 14:13

BobbyBiscuits · 15/10/2024 13:59

@arthar I'm absolutely not accepting you calling my comments ageist or insulting.

No, I don't think you have to accept that.

ilovesooty · 15/10/2024 14:12

arthar · 15/10/2024 13:56

You don't need to tell someone to get their parent on AA and get a BB to raise awareness of these things. They may be applicable, but to simply assume a person would qualify based on them being a persons mother is not just insulting but downright ageist.

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She said "if" she has a Blue Badge. I hate ageism but I don't think that post was ageist.

BobbyBiscuits · 15/10/2024 14:12

@arthar well you're seeing things in completely the wrong way. I'd give that advice to anyone with an elderly parent. I have one myself and know what it's like. I'm quite perplexed you took what I said as insulting. It certainly was meant as the opposite.

MermaidEyes · 15/10/2024 14:10

Does she have a bus pass? This is all my dad has as ID and so far has been accepted when he's needed to use it including things like solicitors.

arthar · 15/10/2024 14:08

BobbyBiscuits · 15/10/2024 13:59

@arthar I'm absolutely not accepting you calling my comments ageist or insulting.

You told OP to get her mother onto AA and get a BB based on absolutely nothing other than the fact she is OPs mother, if that's not ageist I don't know what is.

Is she on the benefits she's entitled to? Attendance Allowance? If not then you should get her onto that. And get her the Blue Badge if she hadn't got that.

You may not accept it, but it's there in black and white, and I stand by it