Hoping someone might be able to give me some pointers my elderly step GF really shouldn't be driving. Having spoken to him, I get the feeling he doesn't feel capable, but both him and my DGM are so fixated on him continuing to drive (indeed DGM says he may as well go into a home if he can't drive - it's a dysfunctional co-dependent relationship, with the added issues of cognitive decline, but that's another story) that the gentle conversations/suggestions that it's time to stop just haven't landed.
I'm worried for their safety, but more importantly the safety of pedestrians and other road users. It feels like it's all going to blow up when I step in more firmly. Is there any help I can get to do this more gently/remove myself from the centre of the equation? Is it something their GP could be involved in?
I guess if it comes to it, I'm just going to have to be the "trouble-maker" - it feels better coming from me than either DM or uncle having to potentially damage their relationship with their mother.
Any advice on how to do make this happen, but as gently/kindly as possible? (We have been laying the ground work, bus passes, familiarisation with bus routes, taxi numbers, suggesting mobility scooter etc. and of course will be on hand to help too - just trying to minimise the loss of independence feeling). They are both late 80's if that is relevant.