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Anyone have a relative in a mcarthey stone? Need advice

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Edinlassy · 02/08/2024 15:37

As the title says really am in need of some advice from anyone who have experience of a relative living in one of these.

long story short we are reaching a point where they are making noises that my mum is no longer independent enough to live there. As she owns he flat outright I am wondering what happens when they decide she is no longer eligible to live there. How do they force a sale?

many thanks

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BlackShuck3 · 02/08/2024 17:32

Edinlassy · 02/08/2024 16:59

Issue I am having is my mum is refusing them entry to do the mandatory 3 month life safety checks, she is also baracading her door so carers can’t enter. She won’t even allow me in anymore. There have been complaints from neighbours about the smell coming from her flat. They have called me telling me they are at the end of the line with her and I need to sort it.

As said, you have no legal obligation to do anything and they have no way of making you sort it.

Primefungus · 02/08/2024 17:27

Do you have POA for her? Because if not then no, you don't have to sort it. You might want to of course but you don't have to. There will be a procedure they can follow that she probably signed up to when she bought the flat, maybe in the leasehold or something, but some people have no family to sort this so they must have a way through it. It is just easier and cheaper to make it your problem.

However definitely it sounds like a GP visit is needed if she will accept this. Are you aware of any medical conditions that might lead to this? Or it could be something easily treatable like a UTI if it's come on suddenly.

Spinet · 02/08/2024 17:17

Ugh this is horrible to deal with, sorry. What does your mum say about it? Will she talk to you?

Musicaltheatremum · 02/08/2024 17:15

You need to contact her GP for assessment and the mental health team for the elderly (via GP). Sounds really difficult.

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Edinlassy · 02/08/2024 16:59

Issue I am having is my mum is refusing them entry to do the mandatory 3 month life safety checks, she is also baracading her door so carers can’t enter. She won’t even allow me in anymore. There have been complaints from neighbours about the smell coming from her flat. They have called me telling me they are at the end of the line with her and I need to sort it.

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Justyouwaitandseeagain · 02/08/2024 15:44

And yes, selling the place was another massive stress and challenge but we took some comfort that our relative died in the place they wanted to, and we were willing to take the extra hit of dealing with the sale in exchange for knowing they died exactly how they wanted.

Justyouwaitandseeagain · 02/08/2024 15:41

We had this. We were able to keep the manager on side and put in place extra external care support plus meals on wheels. Thankfully our relative then peacefully passed away. We probably held off the requests for them to move out for 3yrs plus by the time they died.

RosesAndHellebores · 02/08/2024 15:40

They don't force a sale. However these types of properties sell very slowly and when your mother has to move into a care home or dies, the service charges continue to ramp up, eating into the capital.

What does the contract say about the level of social needs that can be supported?