I need to get some help.
I live at home with my mother. I never took advantage of this and I helped her many times. Not only that I am really her only family. Especially during the winter she doesn't see anyone and I am her only daily contact.
Over the past two and have years I developed observations and concerns that's she's going senile but it's not presenting typically with forgetfulness. It's behavioural and mood stuff with her. I am reading online and I am leaning towards a behavioural dementia like FTD. There's just something about her. There's at least a cognitive decline.
Anyways I am in a difficult position. The family home needs some work. There is a lot of work to go I to this. There's an oil tank that needs replacing or we would be looking at an environmental leak at some point. She was told last year it needs replacing. She washed her hands of this and refused this. She's hasn't a notion of doing anything about this. I offered to cover costs involved.
I am coming into a new-ish and different situation.
She's utterly short tempered and I am her triggered. She's always lashing out at me verbally.
I think this is because we have family at home and she's acting in front of them and any opportunity she gets away from them she's lashing out at me. That's what I think it is. I think it's called showtiming on dementia forums.
She's lashing out at me.
I was willing to take out a loan to cover this work and get this done and now I am not sure with the way she's behaving towards me. She's horrible and down right nasty and over the past few weeks I am utterly suicidal. She's not making any sense at times.