I'm going through a terrible time right now with my mother. Basically two and half years ago I noticed something about my mother and she had a spell where she didn't talk to me. There was no speech or conversation from her and it was so odd. I wasn't critical or sarcastic of her or angry but she just didn't talk to me.
It was so odd. It was at that point when I began to wonder if she was going senile. I began to piece together other stuff. She was easily angered. I remember one time going for a shower and when I was ready with my shower, I cleaned the bathroom and I wiped the floor with the towel that I used because that was going in for the wash anyways. I stepped out of the bathroom and I only had one floor out the door and she barged into the bathroom with the mop and started going around in circles over and over while shouting at me about the wet floor. The floor wasn't that wet and all that was needed was time to let steam evaporate. She behaved as if someone was going to come in at that point and walk on the damp floor. The mop she was using was also wet and she was wetting the floor herself. While shouting at me and blaming me.
It wasn't the first shouting spell of that nature from her. Another morning I was getting a fresh and clean tea towel and she raged at me over that.
Mo ths went by and she was ignoring a toilet leak and I waited to see if she was going to get a plumber or at the time I had a brother living at home but he was an alcoholic and she placed so much faith in him. Eventually she got me to get recommendations for a plumber and I did. I got recommendations for a plumber and I consulted with her before booking him. After he left she became far too critical of his work and shouted at me yet again - DONT FUCKING PHONE HIM AGAIN.
Basically her personality and thinking and comprehension wasn't very right. I began to piece all of this together and I began to think of she was going senile.
A few months after me thinking this, I found that she had items of my underwear amongst her own laundry as if they were hers. Even though we are different sizes. I reflected on that and I could understand one or two pieces of underwear getting mixed up in laundry but so many pieces of my underwear? No way. I now realise that she was going into my room snooping and taking my underwear even though my underwear wouldn't even fit her.
I discovered a situation where she became utterly enraged at the idea of a sibling wanting to come home from abroad with his family and there was no reasoning or logic with her.
I have many more observations and I long list of things and so much more.
During a time of stress two years ago she broke out and told me the most oddest tale. I realised that it must be more of my suspicions around the possibly of dementia and I knew not to deny her her reality and I listened to her and I tired to redirect her. She became utterly angry at me - 'Are you listening to me?' she demanded.
There been other things too.
Like poor planning sometimes. The sequencing of chores. She will sometimes stop things to move to another area to touch and feel things. Sometimes she looks confused especially first thing in the mornings.
I strongly suspect there's something happening with her. I chatted with her GP two years ago but I got nowhere with this. The GP asked me if there's any forgetfulness and I was honestly able to answer no.
She's getting worse now.
She's more easily angered and her facial expressions and hand gestures just don't look right to me. I think there is some forgetfulness coming in now.
Basically I am in a terrible place.
I really see things happening.
Right now I have a sibling home on holidays. I was going to write to the local GP office with a list of what I observed over the past few years about her. My brother and his wife do t see anything wrong with her. What they don't know is that nearly every time they have their backs turned she's acting out like a toddler and I am getting the brunt end of her anger. She knows to keep it quite and low and how to hide the anger. Also something else has happened this evening. Her sister/my Anu t would like to see her and the family and visit but my my mother is rejecting this social meet up. It's so so so so so odd.
I really think there's something happening with my mother but I am coming up against a brick wall. With everything and everyone. It seems as if doctors and even .y sibling and his wife would like to see my mother struggle with identifying with what a carton of milk is and what are clothes are before they will even consider the possibly of dementia.
I see so many things with her that's not right. She's utterly utterly utterly bitter and angry and she's far too critical of my brother and his wife of their parenting but they don't hear her vile words. She's directing it all to me.