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Broadband & landline - utterly bewildered

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NetZeroZealot · 31/05/2024 14:42

My elderly parents have just had their broadband cut off. They were with John Lewis who have discontinued the service. They also previously had their landline through them.
Rather than sign them straight up to Plusnet who are the alternative provider, and who can't provide a landline, I thought I'd check the various deals available and have just gone down many rabbit holes.
They are utterly dependent on their landline. My Mum has a mobile which she uses quite a lot but Dad does not have one and makes quite a lot of calls on the landline.
He also has a wearable alarm provided by the council, I'm trying to find out if it's compatible with a digital phone line.
Are they better off with a combined broadband/phone service, or separately?
Some seem to include calls, some are just line rental and you pay extra for calls.
Has anyone had to do this for their parents and got a good recommendation. I think they can get fibre where they live.
They both use the internet quite a lot, but mostly for online shopping and research, not for watching movies or anything like that.
Utterly bewildered by it all and wondering if we shouldn't just go to BT (but they don't get good reviews)

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Martinohmygod · 21/06/2024 11:49

Yes it is .You’d think we lived in the middle of no where with our mobile signal.

NetZeroZealot · 21/06/2024 11:04

@Martinohmygod is it a copper landline, not digital?

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Martinohmygod · 21/06/2024 09:07

Have you tried Sky I have a land line and broadband with them can’t fault the service.

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NetZeroZealot · 21/06/2024 08:51

Unbelievably, this is still not resolved.

BT have been appalling. They cancelled the order once, reinstated it when I queried it, and then cancelled it agin WITHOUT TELLING ANYONE.

The issue is all related to the need to have a copper landline for the care alarm.

I have just spoken to a lovely guy in the call centre who has promised me he will resolve it and call me back tomorrow, but I'm feeling rather sceptical now...

I'm also going to start a new thread looking at alternative mobile phone linked care alarms as a PP suggested as its seems that may be the only way forward.

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funnelfan · 03/06/2024 22:42

EmeraldRoulette · 03/06/2024 19:28

Thanks funnel really appreciate that, pic looks exactly the same.

I have talked to BT and all I got was "it will be fine" with no explanation of how. It's so poor that they couldn't supply the info you've just given.

I was EmmaEmerald so you know a bit about my situation....mum is finally trying to take the load off me so said she'd handle this one but in reality, she won't be able to.

So thank you, I now know what we're looking for. (I try not to talk to her directly about this stuff as she thinks she understands but doesn't and gives me wrong info).

Thanks again.

No problem, glad I could help.

to be honest, I’d be tempted to press the button and talk to the people on the other end and ask them. Mums been told to do that for any query, not just emergencies, I think that company employs the most reassuring and lovely people I’ve ever dealt with on the phone! I’d believe their information more than BT.

hope you’re doing ok. Glad your mum is at least trying to help herself. Mine acknowledges she can’t, acknowledges she puts a lot on me in a self-pitying manner but not actually doing anything that would make my life easier, like agreeing to move to more suitable accommodation. But if I’m being fair, she’s not actually mentally capable of working through that decision any more, she’s at a toddler level of “I don’t want to”.

EmeraldRoulette · 03/06/2024 20:43

@NetZeroZealot hope it all goes well.

NetZeroZealot · 03/06/2024 20:19

Thanks everyone for your advice. I literally spent hours on hold on the phone today to various providers trying to sort this out.

It seems BT will allow my parents to keep their old copper landline, for the time being anyway, which supports my father's careline alarm system. And so we have put the wheels in motion for switching broadband & phone to them. They can also send someone to help install the new box. It feels like progress so far but I'm waiting to see what can still go wrong ...

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blue345 · 03/06/2024 19:55

There are carve outs for certain groups that don't want a VOIP home phone in case that's useful, including the elderly and people with care alarms

https://www.ageuk.org.uk/information-advice/money-legal/consumer-issues/changes-to-landline-telephones/

I’ve just moved to full fibre and my internet is rubbish. Ironically it was far better with my 15 year BT router and fibre to cabinet only. A word of warning that once you’re on full fibre, there’s no going back to the old phone line system. Mine is hanging sadly across my garden reminding me of better times….

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EmeraldRoulette · 03/06/2024 19:28

Thanks funnel really appreciate that, pic looks exactly the same.

I have talked to BT and all I got was "it will be fine" with no explanation of how. It's so poor that they couldn't supply the info you've just given.

I was EmmaEmerald so you know a bit about my situation....mum is finally trying to take the load off me so said she'd handle this one but in reality, she won't be able to.

So thank you, I now know what we're looking for. (I try not to talk to her directly about this stuff as she thinks she understands but doesn't and gives me wrong info).

Thanks again.

funnelfan · 03/06/2024 18:19

EmeraldRoulette · 03/06/2024 18:04

Hi funnel

are you able to say more about how this works please? Mum is currently on a system where a person talks to her through a box downstairs, though it can hear her if she's upstairs. It's really good and the thought of losing it is very worrying.

Yes mums box has the same capability. If she activates the alarm or presses a button on the box it connects to the call centre of the alarm company. If she falls too far from the box and the microphone don’t pick her up they’ll assume she’s unconscious and send someone out (they have the code to the key safe) and also call me.

It’s all done via the mobile phone network rather than the landline. No problem with call quality or reliability. So I assume the choice of equipment is down to the service provider, and they should be able to talk to you or your mum about whether they have the SIM card connected equipment. Mums looks like this.

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EmeraldRoulette · 03/06/2024 18:04

funnelfan · 03/06/2024 13:49

Regarding your dad’s alarm, check with the provider. My mums fall alarm has a SIM card and connects to the mobile network - nice and simple, can put it anywhere in the house as long as it’s near a power point.

Hi funnel

are you able to say more about how this works please? Mum is currently on a system where a person talks to her through a box downstairs, though it can hear her if she's upstairs. It's really good and the thought of losing it is very worrying.

Riva5784 · 03/06/2024 14:02

If you're concerned about compatibility with the life line service, contact their local councillor to get the information.

The councillors may have this information. If not, they will be able to find out. IME council officers are more responsive to councillors than to members of the public.

Beamur · 03/06/2024 13:53

I can't answer your question but would agree that Zen is an excellent provider and very easy to actually speak to a real person.

funnelfan · 03/06/2024 13:49

Regarding your dad’s alarm, check with the provider. My mums fall alarm has a SIM card and connects to the mobile network - nice and simple, can put it anywhere in the house as long as it’s near a power point.

patsy999 · 03/06/2024 00:03

Im with BT. There FO broadband and landline, is £20 a month unlimited. If your on UC or pension credit.
It doesnt work with my councils, helpline though.
The drawback is if your router goes down, that you loose everything.

FrippEnos · 02/06/2024 23:30

The drive towards fully fibre optic is causing huge issues.
Some providers offer a battery backup for medical alarms, but I have not bee able to get anyone to vouch for whether they work when there is a power cut.

It seems to be something that has been ignored by companies.

endofagain · 02/06/2024 23:26

I have been with Plusnet for years and have found them very good. Their mobile service has moved to EE and I understand the BB will move eventually, but their Broadband, landline and free evening and weekend calls is £30 per month. We have 2 people working from home and we have various online streaming services.

EmeraldRoulette · 02/06/2024 23:19

SilverGlitterBaubles · 01/06/2024 09:46

It is appalling that these companies do this to older people without helping them to transition to an alternative. The OPs parents are lucky to have family to help them to navigate this but imagine people who don't have this support. DH recently offered to help an elderly neighbour who was left sobbing in despair after trying to get his phone back in place. It is so sad to see and makes me so angry.

Agree. And AFAICS there isn’t a back up for telecare type devices.

WelshNerd · 01/06/2024 10:04

If they use the landline a lot then line rental, broadband and free anytime calls sounds best.

If you're concerned about compatibility with the life line service, contact their local councillor to get the information.

SilverGlitterBaubles · 01/06/2024 09:46

It is appalling that these companies do this to older people without helping them to transition to an alternative. The OPs parents are lucky to have family to help them to navigate this but imagine people who don't have this support. DH recently offered to help an elderly neighbour who was left sobbing in despair after trying to get his phone back in place. It is so sad to see and makes me so angry.

MereDintofPandiculation · 01/06/2024 09:42

If you need a new provider, look at Zen. They’re a bit more expensive, but very reliable, and they provide a landline. Ours is still a genuine landline, they may only be willing to provide VOIP to new customers, but ask - Zen’s big advantage is you can talk to the techies and can get answers to questions that aren’t on the call centre’s crib sheet.

Everywhere will be going VOIP in a year or so.

NetZeroZealot · 01/06/2024 09:30

I have to say you can always speak to a person at Plusnet and they have been extremely helpful so far.

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NetZeroZealot · 01/06/2024 09:18

Thanks, good info about BT.
The alarm is my Dad's, he can't use a mobile but I guess if it goes to my mobile and my Mum's that doesn't matter.
I've emailed the council. There's no number to contact that department.

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popularinthe80s · 01/06/2024 09:12

Just a couple of things I've learnt from supporting my late mum with this:
It's probably worth contacting the Council who will provide the personal alarm service to check if they need a landline to operate.
We made the switch to mobile only (mum was getting stressed by relentless scam calls, and despite signing up to BT's screening service, that never seemed to work). When it came to installing a personal alarm service , we assumed it wouldn't work with a mobile, but fortunately it did. The LA said they'd had to adapt because increasingly people don't have landlines. You might be lucky with the LA.
BT- this probably isn't that helpful, but if there are any alternatives, I'd recommend you look. In our experience they are expensive and it's really difficult to speak to a human being.

NetZeroZealot · 01/06/2024 08:58

Good link, but I'm still bemused. As John Lewis can no longer provide their land line, are they able to switch back to a non-digital landline from BT.
I guess I'll have to call BT.
My Mum is getting increasingly distressed about having no broadband and keeps suggesting ridiculous reasons, like it's because the roof was repaired.
No! It's because she ignored the emails from John Lewis telling them they were discontinuing her service!

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