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DM is so frustrating with insurance renewals. HELP!!

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EasterRose24 · 18/05/2024 22:33

My DM is 87 and lives alone. She still drives, and is generally in good health. She's also not in bad shape financially. She has a decent amount of savings. And her pensions easily cover her monthly outgoings. I set her up with a regular savings account from her current account, and each month money is paid into this account (over and above her lumpsum savings) for the purpose of paying larger bills.

Every May she get renewal notices for her car and home insurances. They are a few hundred pounds each. .

Every year at renewal time she tells me she wants to pay by direct debit because the insurance premium will leave her short for her regular monthly expenses from her current account.
I've explained over and over that paying this way is more expensive. By as much as £80 for both policies. Every year she gets all stroppy on me and says she doesn't care, she's rather pay by installments, because she doesn't want to be short in her current account.
I've explained she has a regular savings account for this purpose, and lump sum savings as well. She says she doesn't want to use her savings for insurance!!!

I've suggested she use the money saved and give it instead to a charity rather than to an insurance company. She just won't have it.

I know it's her money her choice, but my god I hate insurance renewals now with a vengeance!!!

How can I persuade her that insurance companies do not need her hard earned cash?

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PineappleTime · 19/05/2024 07:49

She's an adult with capacity and it's her money. Why are you trying to micromanage her finances?

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 19/05/2024 07:48

It's not always more expensive these days, I usually pay lump sum but this year the car insurance was exactly the same amount either way so I opted for monthly

Sunnnybunny72 · 19/05/2024 07:47

Frustrating. PIL have lived a frugal life for many years. Think staying in a youth hostel instead of a hotel in their 70's. £30 for their GC 21st birthdays...
FIL has just died and we have found they are paying ridiculous amounts on bills including insurance covering items they don't even own, and have nearly a million pounds in assets.

Bonkers.

AGlinnerOfHope · 19/05/2024 07:47

Do it, then when she grumbles about being short mention overpaying insurance! 🤣

Are you shopping around for the insurance, because auto renew is usually the bigger waste.

I’d refuse to do a DD because of needing to redo it every year, but say she’s welcome to sort it out at the bank if she wants!

StillProcrastinating · 19/05/2024 07:45

Are you sure she isn’t thinking that she might not need a full year of insurance ?

EasterRose24 · 19/05/2024 07:42

Kitkat1523 · 19/05/2024 07:40

Do what makes her happy…,why cause her grief? …not your money

I know and I agree. But then I have to listen to her worry about the cost of living etc.

Its just frustrating 😑

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Kitkat1523 · 19/05/2024 07:40

Do what makes her happy…,why cause her grief? …not your money

EasterRose24 · 19/05/2024 07:28

@PashaMinaMio Thank you. I've been telling myself this. It's just so frustrating when on one have she's willing to throw money away, on the other she's talking about how she's concerned about the cost is living increases!!
Its good to vent. Thank you 😊

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PashaMinaMio · 18/05/2024 23:13

I’m sure you’re talking sense and I absolutely know where you’re coming from but …

You can’t make her do what doesn’t sit right with her so stop trying. She’s 87 and in reasonable health. Be glad she’s got all her marbles at that great age.

It’s her money to do with as she pleases.
Would you let her tell you how to spend your money?

My mum is much older than yours. She too has all her faculties but is stubborn about some things when it comes to finances. I have to respect her way of doing things and let her get on with it.

Pick your battles. Let it go.