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My mother needs a nursing home.

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Pinkpro · 30/04/2024 14:47

I strongly suspect something is happening with my mother but it's not presenting with forgetfullness. It's behavioural and mood stuff with her. There's types of dementia that doesn't affect memory until the later stages and it's behavioural based. A lot of people even GPs they are looking for a testbook style of forgetfulness. My mother isn't behaving well and I am finding it hard to get a diagnosis. After this morning's antics, I don't care what she has. A diagnosis would be great but I am not getting it. She needs a nursing home. She absolutely needs a nursing home after what she did today in the kitchen.

But how do I get her into one?

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Pinkpro · 30/04/2024 16:00

stayathomegardener · 30/04/2024 14:52

You have my sympathies, my Mum is in a dementia care home via the adult social care route and I spent two hours today trying to help her identify a bird in the distance that looked very like a pole... it was a telephone pole but at least a good distraction from trying to avoid explaining that her husband, parents and siblings are all dead so that's why they don't visit.

Forgetfulness isn't very obvious to me. It looks to me as if she is forgetting how to behave.

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ShrubRose · 30/04/2024 15:08

Do you have LPOA?

stayathomegardener · 30/04/2024 14:52

You have my sympathies, my Mum is in a dementia care home via the adult social care route and I spent two hours today trying to help her identify a bird in the distance that looked very like a pole... it was a telephone pole but at least a good distraction from trying to avoid explaining that her husband, parents and siblings are all dead so that's why they don't visit.

gotohellforheavenssake · 30/04/2024 14:52

Where/ who does she live with? You don't need a diagnosis to go into a nursing home. But she would need to agree to, or be deemed to not have capacity to make the decision, or be deemed not able to stay where she currently is by social services. There is a high bar for the latter two, but it depends on her situation and behaviour.

stayathomegardener · 30/04/2024 14:48

You could try getting Social Services adult social care department to assess her if she's a danger to herself.

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