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Elderly parents

What do you do as attorney?

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user14932431 · 04/04/2024 20:58

Parent has dementia (at home with council carers). My sibling has active POA but isn't doing anything unless parent's GP phones them and asks for a decision on something. I worry that there are bills unpaid, money coming out that shouldn't be, benefits unclaimed etc. I think everything is on direct debits. They've not accessed parent's bank accounts or anything. I don't have POA or else I'd do it, tbh they are just lazy.

Please could anyone share what they manage and who you've informed about incapacity?

Also, does the bank etc still have any contact with your person with incapacity?

Thank you

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TraitorsGate · 05/04/2024 18:52

Do they have finance and welfare pia, have they had a formal capacity assessment, do the bank know there is poa in place and that its either activated now or when lostcapacity. Uou can contact the office of the public guardian if you think they are not acting on the poa and see if they can remove them as attorney.

user14932431 · 05/04/2024 18:43

Thank you all for your replies. Did you notify any of the banks and DWP etc about a parent's incapacity?

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MereDintofPandiculation · 05/04/2024 09:24

Does he have PoA for both Finance and Health and Welfare?

For Health - not much while still at home.

For Finance - managed savings accounts, opening new accounts to transfer savings into to benefit from higher rates, spoke to utilities companies on his behalf. Didn’t change suppliers because of his paranoia, but potentially could have done so. Paid for carers, for installation of stair lift. Signed the contract with stairlift company. Since he’s gone into nursing home, paid for nursing home, informed attendance allowance, state pension, occupational pension, tax people of change of address, cancelled insurances, at last able to change fuel supplier, changed landline supplier.

WhatHaveIFound · 05/04/2024 08:49

My sister and I both have POA for my parents but she lives overseas so it's all left to me. This is what I've done so far...

Accessed both their bank accounts
Pay dad's care home fees from their bank.
Renegotiated Sky & BT packages
Spoken to DWP about dad's change of address
Sorted out council tax discount for mum
Set up direct debits for care alarm, gardener etc.
Order mum's meds online
Organise mum's hospital appointments

The bank still sends letters/statements to my parents home address as they are both deemed as having capacity. I have to tell mum not to throw any post away though as she has a habit of mislaying bills.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 04/04/2024 21:10

Trying to remember now as it was a few years back .
My brother and I were both named POA for our parents and when we helped them to fill the forms in we made sure that the box was filled in which allowed us to access accounts immediately .
Initially banks sent a copy of statements to all of us and we all had cards .
As my parents' health deteriorated we took over all financial aspects, including setting bills which were not on DD and paying carers. When mum and dad had to move into care home I completed all paperwork for that and for putting their house on the market .
We didn't have the separate health and welfare POA but my experience was that all care / medical professionals asked for my opinion as NOK and acted in line with this, citing 'best interests'.

After my dad passed away, my brother acted on behalf of my mum.

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