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Am I right to call 111?

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JamieFrasersSassenach · 17/02/2024 18:15

DM has definitely got cognitive decline.
This week it has got markedly worse.

Today she has been telling me things have happened that I know have not.

Examples are that her heating isn't working - it's 23 in her house.

She says people have been coming in and out of her house all week - British Gas Homecare came twice to put new batteries in her hive thermostat and then to show her how to set her boiler temperature - their records say she was confused.

I live an hours drive away from her, I came over this morning to check everything for her - all good, spent about 2.5 hours with her.

I got home at lunchtime, by 3.30 she had phoned me 3 times to say her heating was not working and she was freezing (her hive account which I have access to was showing the house temperature to be 23) and then that none of her 3 TVs were working.

I came back - everything working fine, DM wearing a vest top because she is so warm.

She then said she phoned me because there were electrical wires all over the floor and she did not know where to put them.

She said I had left the wires there when I was stripping down electrical equipment this morning.

There were no electrical wires and I had not had any electrical equipment out this morning.

I called 111 and spoke to them about her confusion. I am waiting for a call back.

Is there anyone else I could contact for help this evening?

I can't stay here with her and simply cannot keep driving over, or to be honest cope with constant phone calls. I'm thinking maybe she has a uti and this is making her a bit delusional.

Anyone have experience of similar - ideas of what I should do to get DM some help tonight/tomorrow?

I have PoA set up so if she is deemed in the future to lack capacity I can act on her behalf.

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JamieFrasersSassenach · 17/02/2024 19:27

The ambulance service called to say that they did not think an ambulance was necessary.
They asked to speak to DM who rambled on at them, told them it is May 4043 and they then said they will send someone to check her out as she was being very rude and erratic when speaking to them.
Since then she has phoned her friend to tell her that I am having her taken away to be locked up.
It's actually quite frightening if I'm honest.

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JamieFrasersSassenach · 17/02/2024 19:19

111 called back - they are sending an ambulance to assess her - blood sugars and urine.
No out of hours within 30 miles and she won't get in the car.
She's now telling her friend that I'm getting her locked up.

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CharlotteFlax · 17/02/2024 19:10

Itsmyhilltodieon · 17/02/2024 18:21

@AnnaSewell thank you - just needed someone to reassure me I am doing the right thing

Have you done a name change?

GrowThroughWhatYouGoThrough · 17/02/2024 18:30

Is there a local walk in centre or treatment centre nearby they could do a urine dip there and then and probably prescribe/give antibiotics immediately

Boomer1964 · 17/02/2024 18:22

If its sudden onset it's probably a UTI. They cause huge confusion, paranoia and hallucinations. Hopefully it is so problem can easily be solved. However, asyour mum ages this sort of problem will become more common.

Itsmyhilltodieon · 17/02/2024 18:21

@AnnaSewell thank you - just needed someone to reassure me I am doing the right thing

AnnaSewell · 17/02/2024 18:19

I would definitely ring. UTI sounds likely. In any event, she is vulnerable.