Hoping for advice. Mil has dementia and is at the stage she is incontinent and no idea of her name and who other people are, just a familiarity. Fil refused to get her diagnosed or any help until he became unwell last year. She had carers from the council but it wasn't enough.
Eventually last autumn fil had a fall and was hospitalized for a month and social services found Mil a home. The home said she was so bad she was moved somewhere more suitable not far from their home.
In the meantime fil was diagnosed with parkinson's and discharged from hospital. There house is unsuitable for both of them but he's determined to change nothing, stay there with no carers.
He's adamant that mil must come home. There's no lpoa and her social worker says this will not happen.
Sorry this is so long. However fil who shouldn't be driving as he's not informed the dvla that he has parkinson's is going to the home daily and taking her home and she gets very distressed.
The home called a meeting with the family, fil didn't come because it was too early!, and social services who said he can visit as much as he likes but he must only take her out of the home once a fortnight and accompanying by another family member. All seemed resolved.
Until last night when dp spoke to his dad and the same day as this meeting he went to the home and took mil back to his house for the afternoon.
If you've got this far, we're at our wits end. What is likely to happen? Will he be prevented from seeing her? Could she lose her place at this lovely home, council funded? And then what? Does anyone have similar experience? Tia