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Social working ringing tomorrow

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Limetreee · 02/11/2023 18:19

Hi Mums been in hospital two weeks she’s 92. She was admitted due to feeling unwell, confused and high bp. All her tests have come back clear. I’ve spoken to three Drs and told them all mum is unsafe at home. The social worker has spoken to mum today and told her I’m fed up with caring for her 😡 I’m furious.
I’ve never said that, haven’t even spoken to her yet, she’s ringing me tomorrow.
I would like mum to have 24hr care. But that for us does mean a care home. Mum is totally against it. Does anyone know what might be said or asked tomorrow. I can’t think straight at the moment and don’t want to waste tomorrows call.

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cestlavielife · 02/11/2023 18:42

Is that what your dm said?
Unless you were there that might have been interpretation

They will do an assessment.
Your views considered but they will assess and might not agree with you. Do say you cannot provide care.
Can your dm pay for care?
To give an idea, sw said they would recomnend one visit a day for elderly relative, but she is self funding and gets three . We relatives all agree she needs 3x a day.
Look at care homes locally anyway. Again, will she pay or are you relying onn state funding?

EmmaGrundyForPM · 02/11/2023 18:35

I used to be an OP Social Worker - now in management so not frontline.

My first question is: How do you know that the social worker told your mum you were fed up? I suspect this is a case of Chinese Whispers. I would never have said anything like that.

Second question - why do you think your Mum needs 24 hour care? What level of care was she having before she went into hospital? If she was having little or no formal care, then it might be best for her to have an increased care package before looking at residential care.

There's a lot of support and technology which could help your mum to stay independent at home. Ask the social worker what could be put in place. If your mum has capacity to make decisions, and wants to stay in her own home, then that needs to be facilitated.