My dad is 88 and has been living with us in an annexe for 15 years. He was independent when he first came here, doing his own washing, cooking, shopping and cleaning.
These days, he doesn't go out unless I take him and will literally just sit all day doing nothing. It's getting me down. He never asks if I could take him out anywhere, he just waits for me to suggest something. He's not interested in doing anything with people his own age. He's fully compus mentus, but does a lot of sighing and groaning. He also has a very negative outlook.
My dh is always complaining to me about him. For example, he found out that my dad wants to leave money in his will to my brother (who he never sees). He said that if my dad does that, he's going to stop doing things for him, because he should be leaving it all to us if he appreciates us what we do for him.
I love my dad, but I also understand some of my dh's frustration. The whole situation is getting me down.