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Mums LinkedIn photo

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TiredMumOrMidlifeCrisis · 12/10/2023 15:34

So… my mother is retired but dabbles in a few startups. She is still very active on LinkedIn and send plenty of messages on there, including to my sisters contacts. They work in the same industry. My sister has manage to pave a really nice career for herself whilst mum stayed at entry level throughout.

The main issue with all of this is, her profile picture is pretty much her dressed up in a Halloween costume with fake hair, huge cleavage and a crazy hat. She is 70+

How can I open up a conversation with her about this and get her to change it to a more normal looking photo!?

I’m worries that if I’m to direct she will go all teenager on me and say: I’ll do what I want!

please find a way to word it for me!? Thanks!

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HateMyRubbishBoss · 12/10/2023 16:19

I would love to see the photo too!

how can she message your sisters contacts directly though if they’re not LinkedIn together? She wouldn’t be able to do this unless she has LI premium

In any case your sister can block her (without saying so obviously)

MuffyRogers · 12/10/2023 16:09

I would love to see this photo! 😂😂

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TiredMumOrMidlifeCrisis · 12/10/2023 16:06

Thank you @Plexie and well interpreted! We do have a much bigger problem and we are aware, but this feel like the picture is something we can actually achieve and it will have some impact on my sisters stress levels… Can’t see how we can get her banned from LinkedIn or respect any boundaries we’ve asked for. It is like dealing with an unreasonable toddler with potential mild dementia tendencies that refuses to listen… it’s not easy… but the picture would be a small step in the right direction.

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Plexie · 12/10/2023 16:00

There's an article on the BBC website about people using AI to generate professional-looking profile photos to use on LinkedIn - perhaps use it as a way of explaining that LinkedIn is for professional use, not like Facebook? But it sounds as if you have a bigger problem than just her profile pic.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/business-67054382

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TiredMumOrMidlifeCrisis · 12/10/2023 15:57

Prob not as my sister is actually has a really nice career going and collaborate with people all over the county including meetings within the government on projects. So not really an option.

Whilst mum has no reason to be on LinkedIn what so ever. but she loves it and posts lots of strange stuff and videos of herself.

she could possibly block her, but not sure if it will help…

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usernother · 12/10/2023 15:52

Can your sister block your mum and tell her she's decided to come off LinkedIn?

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TiredMumOrMidlifeCrisis · 12/10/2023 15:46

My sister is very stressed about the whole situation, more so than me. She has asked mum repeatedly to not contact her contacts/bosses/etc, but she won’t listen.

I offered to talk to mum if I can think of a good way to bring it up, but I’m struggling to find a good way that will produce the best outcome for all…

The photo just makes it worse, but at least if she didn’t look so bonkers then people would probably just glance over it when reading her crazy comments.

I think she is using it for attention, but it’s not in a good way, not eve in a fun way, more of a very cringe awkward way…

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Meadowflower2023 · 12/10/2023 15:39

She sounds fun!

I think I'd go along the lines of people perhaps might not be able to recognise her from the picture she's chosen with it being a little whacky. Good luck OP!

DiaryLouise · 12/10/2023 15:38

Does she actually have a reason for messaging your sister’s contacts? I wouldn’t want my mum messaging my contacts at all (in a way that linked her to me). The photo seems secondary.

Distantview · 12/10/2023 15:36

What does your sister think? Has she asked you to intervene because it's causing problems for her?

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