District nurses catheter

If they have savings, I would start researching private care companies near them now. District nurses do not visit to empty catheter bags. Its classed as personal care, not medical.
The discharge team at the hospital should arrange carers for a limited time to give you chance to organise your own .
Whoever you choose will come and do an assessment and write a care plan.
When we were in the same position with my mother in law (who lived with us) we worked full time so would have a carer come for an hour each morning to get her up, showered, dressed, breakfast and bed change and all her personal care, half an hour at lunchtime and teatime then instead of an evening call, we would do it. It used to cost around £1,400 per month but that was 10 years ago.
After a year of doing this, my husband had to take early retirement because she couldn't be left alone. We continued with the carers though because she wouldn't have wanted her son doing her personal care.

Carers not careers!

In my experience of my elderly fathers NHS discharge they arrange NHS funded careers to come for a few days while paid-for care was organised. The Local Authority (Social Services) suggested carers and my father had to pay around £300 set up fee plus then the ongoing cost of the carers. It's not cheap. He has savings so didn't even attempt to get any funding as would not have qualified. It's a difficult time. My father felt he carers were unnecessary and was quite resistant.

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Stand in front of loo. Lift tube so it is over the pan, use other hand to open tap. It then just trickles down into pan.

Alternatively, sit on loo, aim tube into loo and open tap.

If he can't manage velcro, he will have difficulty with the velcro strap supporting the bag. It's advised to switch legs each day to avoid penis getting sore through tube always being pulled to the same side of it.

But basically, there's no trouble with controlling the jet of urine. If you're ever caught short in the countryside and have to go "behind a bush", emptying a leg bag is easier and more discreet than peeing normally.

Put a jug under it, open the tap, empty the bag, close the tap, tip jug down the loo. Thousands of elderly and disabled people managed to do this all day every day. I think you maybe need to give a bit more credit to them. Just because they are elderly doesn't mean they are completely useless at life. They've managed until now. If they are as infirm as you say then an assessment for social care should have been in the pipeline long ago. And yes you may have to pay for a care package.

Are you sure about that price? I think that's for a pack of 5 or 10.

They're not going to be vastly more than the bags because the bags also have a valve/tap on them.

If he cooks, perhaps he may have the dexterity to open the valve a few times a day to empty?

A catheter bag is absolutely easy to empty. He would just go to the loo, turn the valve & the pee will go in the loo.

@Flyhigher I know your saying they are incompetent but it's a valve on a bag. That will stop the need for carers. I don't understand the reticence (and I do get it. I have a colostomy permanently. They take some getting used to and then-poof- it's like it's always been there)

If he can't manage it and his wife is willing, she could turn the tap to drain the bag. If the catheter gets blocked by sediment or infection, you call the District nurses who will come out and change it.

If he can't manage the tap on the bag, he won't manage a catheter valve. It's basically the same system, except omitting the bag, so urine collects in the bladder not the bag.

They have a house and savings. So am assuming there will be no free care. House is left out of the calculation if he's still living in it, or if his elderly wife is. So financial assessment will be done on his savings plus half of any joint savings.

Ex District nurse here.
Sounds like the most sensible solution is a flip flo valve. No bag on the catheter and just a tap on the end of the catheter which you turn on to empty your bladder and turn off when you've finished. This would be the best way for your dad to keep bladder sensation, helpful especially if the catheter is only a temporary measure after surgery. They should be able to put one on while he is in hospital and make sure he has got the hang of it before he is discharged. If he can turn on a tap and still goes for a wee by himself at the moment then he will manage that OK.

He needs to practice emptying the bag while he's in hospital.

Have you spoken to the ward sister or discharge planning team then? What have they put in place? Does he know how to empty it etc? Does he have the dexterity to use the toggle thing to open/close and empty it?

Did they show him how to attach a night bag? How to empty the bag with the toggle? Does he have a community nurse booked to see him? Wasn't there any paperwork on discharge?