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Who would provide these caring services?

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AutisticLegoLover · 02/06/2023 10:22

•Housework
•Gardening
•Shopping-online and actual shops for groceries and clothes, shoes, items for the home
•Bill paying
•Organising birthday and Christmas presents, buying and wrapping and •sending
•Buying and posting Christmas, birthday, anniversary etc cards
•Emotional support 12+ hours a day
•Arranging transport
•Decorating for Christmas
•Cooking
•Booking appointments for GP, dentist, hairdressers etc and arranging transport there and back
•Liaising with healthcare professionals
•Arranging for jobs to be done by tradespeople and paying them
• Organising mobile phone and utilities
• Personal care eg nail care, eyebrows, showering, dressing
•window cleaning (inside)
• carpet cleaning
•jet washing the drive
• Helping with forms and paperwork
• Speaking to finance companies

I've probably missed some things but that's a good idea. Who would do those things?

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EmotionalBlackmail · 02/06/2023 10:55

TBH it usually seems to be a family member who gets landed with most of this stuff. Cleaning, gardening, cooking (to a limited extent) can relatively easily be outsourced to different companies and paid for but the other stuff, ad hoc things like organising gutter cleaning or house maintenance, are much harder. And the 'cooking' is really just microwave meals or possibly making a sandwich.

We dealt with a lot of it for elderly relative by her going into residential care but it was only an option as she could afford to pay for it. She would never have been eligible via social services. That removed all concerns about cleaning, laundry, house maintenance, organising hair cuts etc.
But family member still had to have POA to be able to organise payment for all this stuff. And things like birthday card buying and sending, buying toiletries etc still had to be done by family member.