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Small rant about lpa and sibling

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IncessantNameChanger · 19/04/2023 23:07

Just ranting into the void. Asked my sibling to look at lpa forms last month, two weeks ago and last week. The realisation I'm on my own if I go ahead with it is hitting me. My sibling head isn't in this so I'm.hoping I can add them but not have to keep relaying info to them. It looks like my parent will refuse any treatment to extend their quality of life. Sibling is in total denial. They haven't read parents medical letters either. I know that's siblings choice but I do feel hacked off that I'm dyslexic and useless at forms and on my own with it all. My sibling isn't going to any help going forward are they? I absolutely spelt out that I needed help with it and it's always on the to do list.

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LadyGardenersQuestionTime · 20/04/2023 08:41

Can you afford help to do the LPAs - a solicitor? Or your local Age UK or Age Concern might help you? they are fiddly.

If you sibling isn’t going to engage then having them as LPA will be a hinderance. Get it done asap with just you.

SheilaFentiman · 20/04/2023 08:23

It is your parent who specifies their attorney(s) - you can be the only one, it’s not obligatory to have more. Your sibling would need to agree to be one, you can’t just write them down.

MichelleScarn · 20/04/2023 08:05

I'm going to contact their gp today and start the lpa on my own. I'm going to add my sibling but they won't be making any desisions.

you can't add the sibling without their permission. And why would you add them if you don't want them to be allowed to be making any decisions? (That's if I've interpreted your post correctly?)

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IncessantNameChanger · 20/04/2023 08:03

No not terminal. But they have a condition that will result in dementia if left untreated. I know I need to crack on but my dyslexia holds me back as I could make mistakes. I'm going to contact their gp today and start the lpa on my own. I'm going to add my sibling but they won't be making any desisions. They can't even read their Dr letters so how can they make desisions based on their misunderstanding and false presumptions? Mum has told them she is fine and they are happy she is fine. Sent on letters saying she isn't fine, sibling to busy to read them

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SheilaFentiman · 20/04/2023 07:13

LPAs are taking around 20 weeks to register at the moment. Is your parent in the terminal stages? Flowers

moonspiral · 20/04/2023 07:11

It needs to be sorted while your parents are able to do so.