My parents were over 20 years separated and they never sorted anything out between themselves. Then it was discovered 5 years ago that my father built up a lot of debt and at some stage this was likely going to become my mothers debt or the family home was in jeopardy because they were still married.
My mother start divorce proceedings. I think she was 66 at the time.
She's a senior now and in her early 70s.
About 18 months i began to notice some things with her and I began to wonder about her and lean into the possibility of a dementia happening with her. I chatted to her GP last summer about my concerns but I am nowhere further along with a diagnosis. Every day is different with her. Sometimes she is OK. Than other times not so great. It does look as if her face struggles to keep any conversation going at times.
I am getting concerned now in relation to the divorce because the divorce was started 5 years ago and there is still no progress being made. There is still no hearing date. It doesn't take this long. The divorce was supposed to be cleanish enough with the wish being the family home going to my mother. All these years later from the start of it - there's nothing. I have an issue now in that she's now become extremely apathetic about it all. She was always apathetic with legal stuff so it's not a change in her. She got a fright with his debt and moved with a divorce. I think at this stage there has to be someone there to drive a divorce forward. Get onto their solicitor and get it moved along. My father is never going to do that. Not it looks like my mother is the same. I asked her this morning, can she please contact her solicitor and get a timeline for the divorce and all she did was going into a ranty mood telling me that sure he doesn't know himself so how can he tell me.
I mean like this has taken 5 years? How many more years is it going to take them? I asked for a simple request to move this along but she won't do it.
I'm utterly astonished. 5 fucking years and still not done.
I would be in touch with her solicitor myself of I knew he would deal with me but he won't.
Where do I go now. The divorce has to go ahead so some things can be finalised but she's not moving it forward.