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Care home neglect?

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Mxflamingnoravera · 11/03/2023 08:40

My mum has dementia, she lives in a care home. I visit weekly. She's been in her current home since august and was three years in her previous home, she had to leave because she started to wander out and get lost, they couldn't keep her in and so I moved her to a specialist (locked) dementia home.

I visited yesterday and she was complaining about a mark on her shoe. I asked her to give me the shoe so she took it off and handed it to me. It smelled dreadful and I commented that it was a bit whiff and then looked down at her feet. I was horrified to see that her toenails were like claws, she clearly had fungal nail disease and they had not been cared for or cut in months.

Her bill clearly shows chiropodist charges in February and November, but the state of her nails looks to me like they've been untreated for months. I tried to cut the nails myself but it was impossible without causing her pain.

I went down to see the manager and the clinical lead. The clinical lead (a nurse) looked at the pictures I'd taken of mum's feet and said that has not happened overnight, that's months of disease.

They've promised a doctors visit next week and a chiropodist visit, but it suggests to me that this is symptomatic of a deeper neglect. In my situation what would others do? I'm going to write and complain. It's self funded and costs £1470 a week...

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MarshaMelrose · 11/03/2023 09:13

They're admitting neglect. Ask them what their next actions are going to be investigating this. It's easy to say move her but it's so difficult in practice because some of the dementia homes are so awful. What are its CQC ratings? You can always complain to them if you're not happy.

Frightenedbunny · 11/03/2023 08:59

Raise a safeguarding alert with your local authority. They should investigate. Have you taken photos of your mums feet? If the clinical lead has said it’s not happened over night, have they offered you any assurance they will investigate?

Mxflamingnoravera · 11/03/2023 08:55

Im wondering if I should move her. If they are not checking her feet, what else are they not checking?

I'll draft a letter today asking to see the chiropody reports and her intimate care records. It'll certainly put a rocket up them but I've a deeper feeling of worry that this may be just one symptom of deeper neglect. I've no evidence for other neglect but it's left me angry and upset that other things could be being missed.

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LadyGardenersQuestionTime · 11/03/2023 08:46

I would certainly complain in writing to the home. Did the November and February chiropodist visits happen and if so what records were made? I’d be surprised if the home doesn’t investigate anyway, but give them a chance to do their research and to tell you what action they are taking for your mum and how they are going to make sure it’s not going to happen again. If nothing is forthcoming pdq then I’d consider a safeguarding referral to your local council.

shakeitoffsis · 11/03/2023 08:44

That's terrible and definitely neglectful. Stick to your guns and raise it with the appropriate people. Hope your mum is ok.