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Mum fell over - didn’t tell us

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Springisclose · 04/03/2023 20:03

Im one of 4 siblings. Only one lives near my parents - But is no support and completely self absorbed. I live in Europe, DB in Canada, other sister is 2 hours away.
I have just found out via a relative that a few weeks back my Mum feel over walking to Church. Badly bruised and scraped her face. Didn’t tell anyone. And my Dad - who usually cant keep anything to himself - didn’t mention it either.
Im a combination of annoyed, worried and exasperated.
I wondered why she hadn’t been video calling me recently.
She is in her late 60s. Pretty healthy and active. But very private and stoic
I’m not sure what I’m asking. It’s just frustrating

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WindowGazers · 04/03/2023 20:07

She doesn't want to worry you. None of you live nearby. She didn't want fuss. She's not that bothered by it and wants to crack in without feeling embarrassed etc etc (I fell over a year ago and didn't tell a soul, hurt myself quite badly (needed stitches on my back, and I'm only in my 30s!). Totally understand that you are worried and want to help but she's an adult and not elderly so maybe just wanted to keep it to herself.

Coffeellama · 04/03/2023 20:07

Has she got other health conditions or care needs? I can see why you would worry obviously but if she’s an independent adult in her 60s and you don’t even live in the same country I can’t see why she’d need to tell you if she doesn’t want to, she probably didn’t want to worry you. What can you do about it anyway?