Private (visiting) carers

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WhoopItUp · 28/02/2023 08:20

Does anyone have any experience or organising carers to come in once a day to help out? I have one parent with dementia and the other is struggling to cope, especially in the morning when symptoms are worst. I keep encouraging them to get help in but there’s a lot of resistance. Does anyone know how much this costs or have any advice. They will self-fund. They were offered an NHS package of support 4x a day but I don’t think this is the right thing at this point.
TIA.

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Wombats23 · 28/02/2023 09:20

4 x visits is the max you can get so they must have serious needs.

Phone up the private agency & ask for what you need. It really is just that.

Getting parents to let them come is the real problem.

RedDoughnut · 28/02/2023 09:18

Take the free care!

At least try it! Even if nothing much is needed it's a friendly face and maybe a few minutes for a shower, read the paper etc.

We used a company called Home Instead to help with MIL. Not cheap but excellent. I think they have branches all over.

You can combine the two.

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WhoopItUp · 28/02/2023 09:14

The offer of 4 visits was described as ‘short visits to help you take pills, help microwave a meal/eat it etc’ and I really don’t think that’s what they need (and neither do they). They really need a longer visit to help with the morning routine which is incredibly slow (it can take a few hours for mum to come round fully) and if someone was there it would also allow to go out to his brother’s for a bit, go to the shops etc. They already have a social worker etc.

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StopStartStop · 28/02/2023 08:24

Take the offer of 4x a day! People can't get the help they need, it isn't offered when it isn't needed. You could buy in extra if you think that's necessary.

Also, having the care offered will get your parents on the system, and might help if greater care is needed later.

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