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DM refusing to go to hospital appointment

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JenniferBooth · 12/02/2023 22:45

I had no idea until Saturday night that it was a cardiologist appointment. She also cancelled an appointment back in December but i dont know exactly what that one was for. She fell at the top of the stairs last September and broke her hip. Spent just under two weeks in hospital. Refuses to get a stairlift put in and crawls up the stairs. Shes 87 this month. She lives with my dad who is also 87 this year and my niece who is in her 20s also lives there.

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carpool · 13/02/2023 00:13

I'd want to find out why she doesn't want to go. Is she frightened and if so what of? Perhaps try to gently tease out what her issue is and maybe offer to go with her and advocate for her. As has been mentioned if she has capacity you can't force her and trying will probably just make her dig her heels in even more. You will be more likely to persuade her with encouragement and kindness.

JenniferBooth · 12/02/2023 23:20

It doesnt work She just shouts that shes not going.

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SadMadGlad · 12/02/2023 22:52

When I say bribe her, I mean do whatever she wants to do for a day or something similar 😃

SadMadGlad · 12/02/2023 22:50

You have to convince her to go. Get everyone else on board and you all work together to get her to go. It shouldn't all be on you. Bribe her if you need to! Could you go to the appointment with her? Would that help?

ShippingNews · 12/02/2023 22:47

Unfortunately, if she is mentally fit she can cancel anything she likes. I know it's hard to watch them deteriorate and not do "the right thing" but she is allowed to make bad decisions .

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