She doesn't shower. Ever! Her house is totally adapted to enable her to do so. She lives alone and can manage perfectly adequately but she will not shower, preferring to just wash at the basin.
To my shame I had to have strong words with her recently when she had an accident with her colostomy bag leaking. (I don't want to go into details but it wasn't pleasant and I had to do a major clean up). I basically told her that if she didn't start showering, I wasn't going to take her out anymore. :( She was still refusing to even change her clothes until I pleaded with her to do so. It would have been so easy just to strip off in the 'wet room' shower and get properly clean. I fear these accidents will only get more common and I dread visiting. I hate feeling like that, I feel like a rubbish daughter but I also gag at being near her or taking her anywhere. Isn't that terrible. It needn't be like this if she would just shower and deal with her bag properly. I'm not great at being a nurse but I'm trying to be for her sake but it's really getting me down.