My elderly uncle is currently in hospital following a fall. He is confused and thinks the nurses are trying to poison him so keeps pulling his iv out.
My aunt cannot cope with him at home. His mobility is very poor but he refuses to use a Walker. He often doesn't make it to the toilet in time. He is quite belligerent and insists that he can do things for himself. His bedroom is upstairs so she has to help him up and down. My aunt is not strong enough to push his wheelchair so my dad will sometimes take his brother out for a walk.
My aunt is coming to the realisation that she does not want him to return home when he is discharged. She is at the end of her tether, absolutely exhausted. Their children support her and intend to talk to him about it together.
She has called SS but they won't get involved until he is medically fit for discharge. The hospital say he'll need a "care package"... but are really vague about it. Does this just mean care at home? I really don't think carers coming into the home will be enough. My poor aunt would still have to deal with him the rest of the time. He needs 24 hour care.
I'd be grateful for any advice on the steps we take to get him into a care home. Surely we don't wait until he's unnecessarily taking up an nhs hospital bed before setting this up?!