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My mother is obsessed with the neighbours

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DPN · 15/11/2022 13:54

I think my mother is obsessed with the neighbours. She is always looking out the window. Sometimes when's he sees some of neighbours out walking she gets mad if they are dressed up. I suggested before that maybe they are going to the pub and it's not going exercising.

For months she was asking me for a particular neighbour because she noticed she hasn't seen him. As if I am friends with him and know his whereabouts. I am not friends with him. I get a feeling she doesn't care about him. She just wants to know if his marriage is broken up and he's gone.

Another time, the other neighbours had their bins out for collection a while in advance of bin collection day and this drove my mother into a frenzy thinking that there was a change to the bin collection schedule. There was no change and no notification of change. I suggested to calm down and maybe they are gone away and we will leave the bins out on bin they we hen they are due.

A other time at the start of the pandemic she refused to follow guidelines like social distancing until she knew what the neighbours were doing.

Another time, another neighbour was out walking. The lady must be in her mid 70s but she doesn't look a day of 45. She looks very well. She fit too. I reckon she would be a size 6 or a size 8. She's incredible. My mother was peering out from a curtain one day and browse into an anger looking at her bounce and fly like a butterfly walking down the road. My mother was angered.

Is anyone elseels parents obsessed with their neighbours?

OP posts:
Mum5net · 15/11/2022 19:51

It's the get a life syndrome
I don’t think it is … I think obsessions are the start of cognitive decline, particularly if it is in an elderly relative.
Neighbours are a common one I would bet. as would be family members.
My DF was absolutely obsessed by the factor and their quarterly bills for the upkeep of their property. He absolutely raged at them. My DM became obsessive about feeding the foxes. Their reactions were unhealthy and although started off mildly, escalated.

OP, I would start to look at your DM giving someone Power of Attorney. It’s never too early.

woodhill · 15/11/2022 18:25

It's the get a life syndrome

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 15/11/2022 18:21

Yes, my dad gets really upset if a car is parked outside my house.

He thinks it’s my space and not for others to park there. I’ve explained that I don’t own the road and anyone can park there but he says it’s ‘common decency’.

The best part? I have a driveway and garage. I don’t need to park on the road!

RidingMyBike · 15/11/2022 18:13

Mine isn't dissimilar. I don't think she's got enough going on in her life as I get reports on movements of these people I've never met! Also the neighbours of friends of my Mum - I REALLY don't need to hear about them!
And disapproval if they don't behave in a way she deems acceptable. Whether Covid restrictions, parking or putting out wheelie bins.